(Closed) To ask or not to ask?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well, thanks for commenting on my post. As you just read, I’m very open with my guy and I have trouble not telling him EVERYTHING. if I were you I wouldn’t be able to help asking him if he was still planning on proposing soon. Or you could just say nicely next time he talks about the wedding “I’m so excited to marry you, but I don’t like planning wedding details before we’re actually engaged” or something like that. Technically it is still summer until the 23rd of this month, so maybe wait another 2 weeks to bring it up? 

Post # 4
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

This sounds exactly the way I was. I was told I would get my ring that spring and spring came and gone and I got my ring two months later. I just told him that I didn’t want to hear another work about wedding planning or our wedding until he actually put a ring on my finger. I’m sure if he is still actively talking about the wedding then he is still planning on proposing but something may have come up that could delay the actual proposal.

Post # 6
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131 posts
Blushing bee

I love PinkBubbleGums perspective! One thing I have learned is that guys are very perceptive, you may think that by not telling him whats bothering you that he doesnt know but we give off vibes. It’s all in how you present how you feel to him. I love the example

–“I feel so excited to marry you, I dont like making plans when we arent engaged and I have no ring. It makes me feel _______. I dont want to feel that way and impact our good times together. What do you think?”

Fill in the blank with how you feel….sad, angry, expectant, anxious… just be 100%honest. If it makes you feel angry then say angry. This communication tool has been a LIFE SAVER for me in my relationship. My guy just tunes right in when I say things this way and it gets a healthy conversation going about why we feel how we feel and what we can do to make things better. It has always brought us closer as well.

I hope this helps! Good luck with the party and keep us posted!

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