Post # 1
I am having a dilemma — I have two friends who I would potentially consider asking to be my bridemaids….
My potential Maid/Matron of Honor is a total girly girl…. I could actually see her being hurt if we didn’t have a bridal party. We’ve talked about being each other’s MOH’s before and I know she’d be bummed if she wasn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor.
My dilemma stems from my other Bridesmaid or Best Man option. She is more like me…. not so girly and I don’t think she’d necessarily want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man… but I feel like she and I click on wedding related things. I would really like to ask her if she would go check out wedding dresses with me…. I’m super self conscious currently and I think she would be the only person I would want to go with me. But is it weird to ask her to go dress shopping and such if she isn’t a BM? (And btw, she is totally cool and I could definitely talk to her about the situation, which I will do, but I wanted some hive opinions as well)
Post # 3
Are you only have one bridemaid or are you asking about which one should be MOH? I am a little confused.
Post # 4
If you want her to come dress shopping with you and feel comfortable with her and know she will be honest, I don’t see any reason why to not ask her to come along!
Post # 5
Even if you aren’t going to ask her to be in your wedding party, I’m sure she would be honored to go look at dresses with you. It would be a good way to make her feel involved. You should take whoever will make you feel comfortable and give you their honest opinion.
Post # 6
The girls I went dress shopping with were not in my bridal party either. I think it would be no big deal to invite her. If I were the potential Maid/Matron of Honor though I might feel hurt not to be included in dress shopping, unless she lives far away.
Post # 7
why don’t you bring them both.. the girl one will prob pick dresses for you you would never pick for yourself, and hey, you might end up liking- and the other one would give you her honest opinion. You’ll get the best of both worlds there!
Post # 8
Yeah, why not take both dress shopping? Are you saying you don’t want a Bridal Party at all? Perhaps the only one eho would be hurt is the girly girl? If you talked about being each other’s MOH’s, did someting change where you now don’t want any BP?
I’m not sure if I have the big picture, but I guess I would just ask them both to be BMs. If the girl who is like you would feel hurt at not being Maid/Matron of Honor, just make them both BMs or both MOHS. I would hope the girly girl would not feel too hurt. After all, shewill be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a Bridal Party of 2. (Not bad).
Post # 9
Maybe I’m not understanding correctly, but can you just have them both be your MOHs? I also agree with the other ladies, you can take them both dress shopping if you wouldn’t mind. The girly one can help search for dresses while the other will give you the thumbs up or thumbs down on them.