Post # 1
A few months ago when I first started planning my wedding, I asked one my longtime childhood friends to be one of my bridesmaids. Since then, we’ve had sort of a falling out, and have lost touch. I recently apologized to her, because I do treasure our friendship, but she just disregarded my apology and changed the subject right away. She also found out a a few weeks ago that she’s pregnant, and is due about 5 months before my wedding.
I don’t feel too comfortable with her now. Because I feel we’ve fallen apart completely. I don’t think she regards me as a friend anymore, and vice versa. I somehow think of her of just an acquintance now.
I know its wrong to “un-bridesmaid” her, but I also want my wedding party to be full of people that mean something to me and my fiance. I don’t think she’ll be happy standing next to me, and neither would I.
Post # 3
Why don’t you ask her how she feels and go from there. It may be easier if you give her the out she may already be looking for.
Post # 4
I would say try and work on your relationship with this woman. Talk to her at the very least. Kicking someone out of the the bridal party with no attempt at repairing/sustaining the relationship or even talking about the problem is kind of a slap in the face and will usually result in the end of the friendship.
If you still feel the same way at the end of all that then I guess the friendship is over and you could end it.
Post # 5
Talk to her and let her know how you feel. Do you want to continue a friendship with this person? Kicking a bridesmaid out is cool at all unless they are causing your major headaches. Hope everything works out.
Post # 6
It sounds like you are both feeling similarly about the state of your friendship. There is no point in having a bridesmaid who is only a bridesmaid begrudingly.
Just be honest with her. Tell her you realize her priorities are different now especially since she’s pregnant, and that you wouldn’t want her to feel obligated to be your bridesmaid when you’re both clearly not on the same page in your lives and friendship. She’ll probably be relieved to step down.