(Closed) To be or not to be : Would you go double-barrel, or take his surname

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
572 posts
Busy bee

I struggle with this also. Maybe you should hyphenate. If you do go double barrel that doesnt make you an less part of the family. Good luck!

Post # 4
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think this is hard on a lot of people. Could you make your maiden name your middle name and take your FI’s last name?

Post # 5
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

i kept my maiden as a middle name. I’m glad i did!

Post # 7
33 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Mrs to be:   Just wondering how the double barrelled surname has been working out for you? I need to make my name change decision right away. Like you, my maiden name holds a sentimental value for me–  I am not comfortable with abandoning it, yet I want to take my FI’s name too.  Please tell me your experience with this. Have you had a lot of confusion and headaches? 

Post # 8
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would drop your current middle name and make your maiden name your middle name, or if you have a girl in the future you could name her Quinlan and call her “Quinn”. That would be cute ๐Ÿ™‚

EDIT: Just realized how old this thread is ๐Ÿ˜

Post # 9
9 posts
  • Wedding: August 2016

I am one of the last with my family’s surname left also… everyone always told me I cold hyphenate… but my surname is already 9 letters long, and hard to say… and his last name is 6 but even harder to say… so I think it would kind of be a disaster. It also makes it kind of confusing if and when you have kids if your name is different than theirs.




In the end I will probably end up taking his name… good luck on your decision. ๐Ÿ™‚


Oops… old post! 


Post # 10
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Mrs to be:  I’m in the same boat. I’m the last in my family with our name. My fiance is the last in his family too. I know that my name will not be passed onto my children, but it is still very sentimental to me. I like my name a lot, and it’s also part of our family business’ name. I thought about keeping my name and taking his socially. He thinks it’s ‘weird’ if I keep my name, and doesn’t like hyphenating. Hope you can figure yours out! lol

Edit: Just also realized that this thread is super old. Oops!

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