(Closed) To Bees who have been married/engaged for a while…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If I could go back in time:
    I would spend more on my ring : (32 votes)
    14 %
    I would spend less on my ring : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Gone with a more simple/practical design : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Gone with a more ornate design : (12 votes)
    5 %
    Gone up in size : (27 votes)
    12 %
    Gone down in size : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Gotten a different centre stone (in terms of actual gem, colour etc) : (17 votes)
    8 %
    I've realized that my ring is great but not as a big a deal as I made it (spent less time/money) : (13 votes)
    6 %
    I still think my ring was worth all the fuss and money : (91 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 17
    7308 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I spent a lot of time on my rings, and I think they are definitely worth both the time and money put into them. The longer I wear them, the more I appreciate how right they are for me. To be honest, I still wish I could pull off a halo because I adore them on other people and think they are so very pretty. But I am slowly accepting that a halo will never be right for me, and that my more simple ring really is the best fit for my personal style.

    Post # 18
    3551 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I love my ring and wouldn’t change a thing about it. My stone is the perfect shade of green and I love my setting.

    Post # 19
    7627 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    None of the options really fit me. I wouldn’t change a thing about it so the only option that kind of fits is “it was worth all the fuss and money” but really there wasn’t a big fuss about my ring. And he really didn’t spend that much on it.

    Post # 20
    3764 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Wouldn’t change a thing. DH did a great job picking out my ring.

    Post # 21
    3318 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    After wearing my ring for 13 months, I’m very happy he picked what he picked. He spent more money than I would have liked but for an Ideal cut, IF clarity diamond, I reeeaaallly couldn’t complain. It was an amazing deal.

    Post # 22
    2031 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I said I would’ve spent more on my ring – more specifically, my WEDDING band. I don’t feel attached to my wedding band at all and wish I had something completely different. I got a $10 plain band from Amazon as a placeholder since the band I wanted wasn’t in the budget this time around. I’ll get an upgrade for an anniversary some day, but looking back, I wish I had gotten what I wanted the first time.

    Post # 23
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I love my ring. I told Fiance some general preferences (thin band, round stone), he chose the setting and diamond size/specs himself and did an excellent job. He spent probably about 1 month salary and I think that was just right (bought on Blue Nile, the same diamond specs at our local stores was significantly more expensive). I love my classic solitaire and I know I’ll never regret going simple. The only thing I might change eventually is to go from 4 prongs to 6, to make it even more classic lol.

    Post # 24
    5422 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would go back and get a bling band instead of what I have. Tho I love it I kinda fell under the engagement stigma instead of sticking to my original plan. 

    Post # 25
    470 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I honestly still lovelovelove my ring. However, the setting makes it difficult, if not impossible, to have a set with the wedding band. So that kinda bums me out.

    Post # 26
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    DH designed my ring himself. While I love it, it was not EXACTLY what I wanted. I wanted a halo with a princess cut center stone with pave diamonds on the band. Also an eternity band wedding ring. I got a unique round cut center stone flanked with 3 stones on each side in a triangle. Beautiful, just not what i expected. IF and WHEN I upgrade, I might add the halo to my exsisting E ring and then it’ll be the best of both worlds.

    Post # 27
    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m not sure your poll has an option for me–I love my ring and wouldn’t change it, so I suppose I think it was “worth all the fuss and money”, except that I don’t think there was that much fuss or money. We looked just long enough to figure out what I wanted and to make sure I’d love wearing it for the rest of my life, and DH spent enough that it’s special and beautiful and everything I’d hoped for, but not so much that it was out of line with our overall tastes and values (we tend to emphasize experiences like travel, performing arts, food, wine, etc. over material goods).

    Post # 28
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    @Arshim:  Hmm none of the above! I’m really happy with both my e-ring and wedding band. I wasn’t a big “ring girl” before my DH proposed and had done zero research; we went to a jewelry store and I looked at a few styles before picking out a round diamond with a halo and an eternity band. He ended up choosing a beautiful setting, not super expensive but not cheap either, with a lab-made diamond, and I love it.  The center stone is right around 1 carat, which is a great size for me. My wedding band is a very thin eternity band, and I love all of the pave diamonds – no regrets! The pave diamonds are Canadian, which is awesome. I haven’t had any issues with diamonds falling out or really any other problems.

    My wedding band was more expensive than my e-ring – I think it was ~$1600 – but I am so happy we chose it! I think the most important thing is to pick a timeless ring you’ll enjoy for many years, and stay in your budget.

    Post # 29
    9541 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My ring is a redesign of 2 heirloom rings. My husband didn’t spend much on it and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!! I wouldn’t change a thing about it.

    Post # 30
    2115 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    my e ring was his grandmas. my wedding ring was my grandmas. so i wouldnt change it for the world.

    Post # 31
    9948 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Mr TTR & I shopped together.  It took us 6 weeks to find THE RING…

    Partly because we are Encores… and I wanted something that didn’t look anything like my last ERing.

    Also tho because we did a lot of Reading & Research (in our case about Diamonds)

    I am happy we did all that we did, cause I can honestly say…

    I AM 100% HAPPY WITH MY RING (18 months in)

    I don’t envision growing tired of it, of wanting to Upgrade it


    It has EVERYTHING that I wanted, and EVERYTHING that Mr TTR wanted.

    It ticks all the major boxes…





    CARAT SIZE… comes in last.

    Because I was far more concerned about QUALITY than I ever was with Quantity.

    No Regrets.  Very very happy.

    Hope this helps,



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