(Closed) To Bees who have been married/engaged for a while…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If I could go back in time:

    I would spend more on my ring

    I would spend less on my ring

    Gone with a more simple/practical design

    Gone with a more ornate design

    Gone up in size

    Gone down in size

    Gotten a different centre stone (in terms of actual gem, colour etc)

    I've realized that my ring is great but not as a big a deal as I made it (spent less time/money)

    I still think my ring was worth all the fuss and money

  • Post # 32
    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    For me we are actually “upgrading” my rings. We’ve been engaged for about 2.5 years now and I’ve noticed a lot that I dislike about the rings. I really love the yellow gold but I hate the shape and arrangement of the CZ stones on the ring – it just is not me at all. I always have noticed that it gets extremely dirty because of all the grooves around the stones – as in black gunk after a couple days dirty. It is also his mothers old ring and several times she has had episodes where she demands I give the rings back to her immediately… which makes it pretty tempting to not have these after we are married.

    The new ring I got is more me. It is sterling silver with an oval aquamarine stone in the middle and small diamond accents around it and along the band. We are still looking for a cheap sterling silver band for me to wear with the ring. It isn’t nearly as grooved as the other one so I don’t need to picking out black gunk. 

    I really hate the thought of parting with this ring as it has grown on me over the years but it is just simply more practical to buy a new ring before we get married and switch them out for the ceremony.

    Post # 33
    3274 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I wouldn’t change a thing! We walked by a jewelry store while walking around the mall, I nuged Fiance in a joking way and he said why not look? We looked at a few rings, they were nice, then they brought out one ring that was 75% and perfect! That was all it took. We bought it that day, literally less than 30 minutes of looking at rings. I still love and stare at my ring all the time!

    Post # 34
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You have poll options for changing size but not for changing quality stats. I think people become more aware of the importance of quality over time.

    Personally the engagement ring is one of the things that I feel my Fiance did (and I helped do) pretty much “just right” for us. I really love it.


    Post # 35
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2022 - Greece

    @ArshimFiance & I have been together almost 6yrs.  We looked at rings on the internet many hours over a few weeks so he’d know what style I liked.  When it came to trying a ring on(think it was to know my size), it was only one Saturday 3yrs ago.  We knew what store & narrowed it down to 3 mountings.  He told the owner he’d be back on Tuesday with his mounting & diamond choice.  I was excited at the moment & then not knowing which one he’d choose – well that’s like a kid in a candy store!  We were headed out of town that day & it was on my mind so much, I told him the next morning not to get me a ring now. I knew in my heart which one he’d choose & I just didn’t know about having an open setting.  

    I was suprised when he proposed and gave me a ring this past spring. It’s in white gold and we both love yellow gold so I was a little confused. He told me when we get married all our rings will be custom designed in 18k yellow gold and I’ll be surprised all over again. Gotta love a man with a sentimental side. 

    No regrets on saying “no” to the first ring. Wear my ring all the time, but can’t wait to have the ring he designs for me.  Apparently our internet hours were put to good memory.

    Post # 36
    1258 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would have picked a different setting….I love my center stone and it’s beyond what I ever thought I would get,  but I really like more simple settings and I wish I had told my dh at the time.

    Post # 37
    2141 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’ve had it a bit over a year, and I still think it’s the best choice we could have made. It annoys me a bit that morganite is so hard to keep clean, but I don’t know if pink/champagne saphire would have actually been any better, and probably would have been too much more expensive.

    I’m really glad we went with something simple, practical, and affordable. I also really love the combo of rose gold and morganite, I was a little worried I would grow tired of it but it’s really feels “me” and looking at other white gold jewelry now I’m glad I didn’t pick that.

    I’m glad I spent a lot of time researching to find it, but didn’t have to fuss too much over specs or price.

    Post # 38
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I adore my set, and I have been wearing it for almost four years. Dh did an incredible job.

    Post # 39
    1047 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Ive been engaged for a year now, and I’m still in love with my ring. Fiance had it custom made in secret, and I’m just floored that he got it so perfectly right for me. It’s simple and elegant but with a bit of a twist – a classic solitaire but not quite like anyone else’s ring. Plus it’s low set which is perfect for me. I can’t imagine ever wanting to change my ring. 

    Post # 40
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    i wouldn’t change it for the world!  i like being different and i dont have alot of ppl with the same ring! We took our time finding “The ONE”



    Post # 41
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think I would have spent a little more time picking a center stone. I wanted a different shape, but my center stone was a gift so we went with it. 

    Post # 42
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Engaged for 1.5 years. Married for 1 month.


    I LOVE my ring.  It’s not something I would have picked myself but the fact the he picked it out all on his own and customized it makes me love it more.  The ring that I would have picked out would have been a cushion cut diamond which it seems like every girl these days have been proposed with.  I truly feel like there is no other person out there with my ring.  I wear it all the time except when I cook.   


    Post # 43
    38 posts
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I’ve been engaged for 2,5 years. Had to get a new e-ring 3 months after being engaged. The stones kept falling out, so we got our  money back. It was poorly made, really.

    Got this ring in April this year. 0.75 ct, unenhanced moissanite (sol243 from moissaniteco). Size 8.5.

    I chose it, thinking it was practical. Being a sparkle-lover, I miss the bling from my first ring. Fiance wants to get me another moissanite soon. When that happens the model below would be my request with a 1 – 1.5 ct amora moissanite (Hopefully for our wedding in August 2014):

    Post # 44
    3080 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Arshim:  I love love love my ring. My fiancé did a great job with it (as in he bought me what I asked for). I wouldn’t do anything really to change it, it’s just what and wanted. 

    ETA: I wear my ring everyday (mostly). It’s a little loose, but I didn’t resize it because I’m getting 2 wedding bands and it fits just fine with those. I don’t wear it when I cook or clean or go to the beach. But I dont think that I would wear any ring doing those things. Oh and I don’t wear it when I go to the gym either. 



    Post # 45
    678 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    After a year since purchasing my ring I am still not regretting it. 

    At the moment we are saving to buy a house, which means scaling back some of the unnecessaries from our wedding- like having to take a pass on a second dress, or those Tiffany pearl earrings I really wanted. But I still feel like my rings were worth it! I get to wear them every day and they mean a lot to me.

    Post # 46
    4251 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I always wnated 2ct+, and now I have that, but it would have been nice to just have that from the start.  And I would have used a different goldsmith.  Tne one we choose makes things heavier than I would otherwise have liked.  But, whatès done is done and that is why there are upgrades. 😉

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