Post # 1
Okay, I have a question… I made myself a (gorgeous! if I do say so myself…) veil to wear on my wedding day. It is a fairly plain, ivory, rounded edge, double-layer tulle veil with some bling on the clip, but nothing on the veil itself.
I knew that I wanted a double-layer veil, mostly because I think it looks cool, and I wanted it to be upper thigh length so it wouldn’t compete with the belt of my dress (pic below). But I never intended to wear the top layer as a blusher. However, now that it is done and I tried on the blusher, I really want to wear it (it just looks really pretty).
So, here is the question: is wearing the blusher for your walk down the aisle and having your dad lift it over your head when you reach the “altar” totally anti-feminist and backward and out-of-date? Part of me doesn’t really care, because I am none of those things, and our wedding is pretty non-traditional (outside, no religious officiant, etc.), and the blusher just looks really, really pretty. But in all seriousness, have you ever been to a wedding wear the bride wore the blusher (I haven’t) and did you think it was weird or cool?
This is obviously just some sort of bride identity crisis, but I would love some bee opinions…
Post # 3
I am wearing a blusher. I’m just very traditional and I think it looks beautiful.
Post # 4
I say go for it. I am Middle Eastern (Iran) and the bride wears the blusher while the marriage is taking place and then the groom lift the blusher up 🙂 and i love the look. Thu that will not be my wedding i am NOT getting married the religious way (well we r already married legally the party is this August) I am not waring a veil at all but i too LOVE that romantic pretty look of blusher. Do it if u love it too 🙂
Post # 5
I didn’t wear one because I was afraid that my dad would probably mess it up by putting it over my head and the reason for it is outdated so I didn’t care if I followed that tradition.
Post # 6
I wore a blusher, and my Dad lifted it when he “handed me off” to my fiancee at the altar. I think blushers are probably most appropriate in more formal church weddings, but I think they can be worn any time. When ELSE would you wear this?! 🙂
Post # 7
I’m not wearing a blusher, but I think they’re really beautiful. The way I’m doing my hair, a blusher wouldn’t look as good so I’m forgoing that and just wearing a veil on the back of my head :]
Post # 8
I’m not wearing any veil, not because I think they’re anti-feminist, but because I felt totally silly in them. It’s just not me, I felt like I was playing dress up or something 😉 But I have nothing against anyone for what they wear on their head, go with what feels right to you!
Post # 9
My veil comes with a blusher, but I don’t think I’ll wear it. I love the way it looks though!
Post # 10
I’ve never seen one worn either but if you think it’s beautiful you should do it.
I wore a long veil but I really didn’t get the whole blusher thing and it didn’t look good with my dress. I said something to my husband about it and he was like why on earth would you wear something over your face. Granted if I had worn one it probably would have given me time to compose myelf walking down the aisle, but at the same time I’m glad my husband got to see my full reaction (even if you can see through the tulle). I feel like I would have taken something away from him if I’d worn one. Also my dad was in the why on earth would you wear one camp so I’m happy I didn’t wear one.
Post # 11
i’m def wearing a blusher! i love the traditional look and i always envisioned myself wearing one and having my dad lift it at the end of the altar. i’m also getting married at a catholic cathedral and think its appropriate. 😀
Post # 12
I’m not wearing one but I do think they are beautiful. Love your dress by the way! So pretty 🙂 I’ve seen some photos of gals with a blusher that comes down to almost her waist and it was very dramatic and awesome. I do think there is a totally different look with blushers if it only falls to right around the shoulders compared to lower—I think lower is more modern. I don’t think it’s anti-femisit or anything, I think it’s just preference. While I will agree it’s not as popular as it used to be, I’m guessing it’ll make a comeback eventually. Seemsl like wedding stuff does that—look at the birdcage veil!
Post # 13
I love them and will be wearing one. I think they are very romantic. I am an extremely independent outspoken woman so I’m not wearing one because someone owns me but just because I really feel like a bride with the veil and my mother and grandmother cried when I tried the blusher on. Whenever I’ve seen a bride with a blusher at a wedding I never thought about the original symbolism but just thought it was really pretty.
Post # 14
I’m not wearing one, but I agree that they are absolutely beautiful. I will have a long veil, but just chose to go against the blusher. One thing to remember (and I’m sure you’ve thought this through already) – I had a girlfriend who when her dad went to hug her at the end of the isle, he got stuck in her veil and since it wasn’t secured well, it just came right off! Make sure when your dad lifts it up, it’s in there tight enough so that he doesn’t just take it right off. 🙂
Post # 15
I like blushers a lot and wouldn’t think anything of a bride wearing one (except yay).
However if the dad lifted the blusher… yeah I’d feel a little eeek and think about all of those property and hand off associations. It just seems very passive to me which doesn’t seem appropriate for someone who is making lifetime promises.
So maybe compromise and wear the blusher but lift it yourself? After all you’re the one making the commitment… I think it would be nice symbolism.
Post # 16
Thank you all for the honest feedback! I think we are all on the same page about doing what works best and makes you feel beautiful. It is great to know that we have (?) reached a place in our culture where it is assumed that you are an independent, modern woman, so if you are wearing a blusher it must just be because you liked it.
@curlysue – I made my veil so that the blusher will fall my hips, so definitely below the belt of the dress and not at a place where it will be in the way.