(Closed) To Boudoir or not to Boudoir….

posted 10 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Boudoir Album as a Gift to my Groom?

    Yes! Totally worth it!

    No! It's not worth the money!

    No! It's trashy!

    I don't know what you're talking about!

  • Post # 31
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Go for it!!! I only looked at a few pictures on the link you provided and I think her shots are sexy, fun, cute and classy!

    Post # 33
    7691 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I know you decided not to do it already. But I just wanted to share that I was going to say its not worth it! $300 is a lot of money! I asked my husband (after we got married) if this is something he would like and he didnt understand the concept. Why would he want photos of me in lingerie when I could just put on lingerie for him in person? I was happy with his response!

    Post # 34
    32 posts
    • Wedding: September 2011

    So I wanted to do this, ya know because sexy pictures are fun and when I’m 80 I’ll have something to look back at and remember how hot I was (j/k). But when I brought it up to my Fiance, he was completely against it. Mainly because the photographer would still have the rights to the photos and would post/publish them on their blog/gallery. He didn’t like the idea of a bunch of strangers seeing his soon-to-be in her lingerie.

    Post # 35
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you should go for it! make sure it’s a good photographer so you’re happy with the results b/c if done right…this is something both you and your hubby will cherish for years to come!  won’t it be fun to take a peak at your younger self in 50 years?! 🙂

    Post # 36
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think they’re awesome and will be doing them as a first anniversary gift for DH.  But as an added bonus, I get to do them for me!  I just think it will be a great experience to take comfort in and enjoy my sexuality and see how drop-dead gorgeous I can be even as a bigger, curvier, woman.

    Post # 39
    2828 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would sound him out on it, if he seems interested then it will be worth it, otherwise it would be a waste.

    Post # 40
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee

    Belle2Be    October 3, 2011  

    @USER876: While I wasn’t the one who said that, I disagree with you. I know your a male photographer, so that really just seems like a poorly disguised dig at female photographers. Clearly the one in the link the OP provided is nothing like a “snapshot” photographer.

    I am not trying to dig at female photographers at all.   I did say it varies with location, but here in NJ, from the popular suspects most of the people use and advertise on the knot, I have seen their websites and to me their work looks like snapshots with very flat lighting with all the whites and sometimes faces blown out.  There are exceptions like angela pilat.  Most of the male photographers style I have seen in boudoir is more editorial, just look at profiles on model mayhem, the photography quality and more importantly the retouching is just at a different level on average.  Just my observation and subjective opinion.  I am in no way stereotyping against female photographers, and my comments are based on the few I have compared in my area.

    There is no reason to get into a debate over this, the point is, by limiting yourself to a female photographer you may be limiting yourself on the best results you can get for the money.  Of course if you are not comfortable working with a male photographer, then you have to do what you have to do.

    Post # 41
    7294 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

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    @missmouse29:  good idea to do this.


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    @Belle2Be: Your husband isn’t into sexy classy shots of his wife?

    i also think it depends on the person/couple.  while my Fiance thinks i am super sexy and all, when i first found out that brides get boudoir shots done, it thought it would be cool too. i told Fiance about it to see what he thought and he didn’t see the point and just saw it as a waste of money.  like why would he look at pictures when he has me live in front of him? that was his mentality.  so while i am sure he would like the pics, it would not be worth the money.  i think that’s what some people mean too when they say their Fiance is not into it or for it.

    Post # 42
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee



    Here ya go, Boudoir for $45 bucks.  However, if this isn’t a good example of “you get what you pay for” I don’t know what is.  Check out the Boudoir Samples.

    Post # 43
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had a very close friend of ours take the photographs for me. It helped that she’s an amateur photographer (as opposed to her real job as an art director for a magazine), and had worked on nude photo shoots with her boyfriend (who is DH’s best friend, and was the best man at our wedding). I don’t think he would have been okay with me having a stranger take them, male or female (but especially not male). 

    I don’t know how often he’ll look at them, but we’re TTC, and I know he loves my body now, and it’s never ever going to look the way it does right now after we have children. I wanted both of us to have a record of it. It’s for me as much as him. 

    I had debated asking him to take them. It would ruin the surprise, of course, but I think it would have been really fun. Maybe something you can keep in mind for the future. 

    Post # 44
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @LoriKay628: DO IT! Oh yeah, I think its so cool to give my baby some special pics of me…especially since we’re Long Distance. Its something special and you only have to do it once.

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