- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I have seen a lot of posts lately from brides who were discouraged with their weight and trying frantically to lose it. I have seen posts from ladies worried about looking and feeling beautiful on their wedding day. It breaks my heart. You are all beautiful. I understand wanting to feel and look your best, and I understand wanting to be the healthiest version of yourself possible. I myself have a good 30 pounds I want to lose before the big day. I’ve been in tears about it for the last few weeks. Time has gone by so quickly, and I’ve been so happy, that I keep putting it off. I’ve been agonizing over it so much this week that I’ve made myself miserable and incapable of truly living in the moment. But I had a realization today. It doesn’t matter.
I am going to be a beautiful bride on my wedding day, regardless of my weight. My fiance doesn’t see the idealized version of myself I compare myself to every. single. time I look in the mirror. He sees me, with my chubby arms and huge butt, and he thinks I’m a goddess. Your fiance thinks the same thing of you. If he didn’t, would he be vowing to spend every moment of the rest of his life indelibly linked to you? I don’t think so. You are beautiful. Happiness radiates through a woman; I think it’s one of the greatest gifts our sex was given. Let yourself be as happy as you can in these beautiful, silly, wonderful moments surrounding your wedding.
I was looking through light in the box for last minute bridesmaid dresses and I stumbled across this lovely lady. This is the picture that sparked my realization. I was just completely struck by how genuinely gorgeous she looks. Her dress, everything. I realized afterwards that she is plus-sized, and it struck me how completely irrelevant it is. Maybe it’s weird that a picture of a random lady on the internet had this huge of an impact on me, but I hope I can brighten someone’s day by sharing it and my experience.
Love to you all.