Post # 1
Okay so I’m wearing the dress shown below for my wedding in June. I went for my first fitting on Saturday. Before I even put my dress on the seamstress was talking about how she has another bride with the same dress and how because of all the layers the bustle is a huge pain.
So I put the dress on and there are a few places in the top where it’s a little too big to the pinned that and then she started pinning the back up for a bustle, the whole time muttering under her breath how it was very tough and it looked better without it. So she pinned half of it up, and it just looked awful, and she asked me which side I liked better….umm obviously the side without the bustle. So we (maybe just her) decided that I would not do a bustle. Now I’m fine with not doing one but I’m worried that people will be stepping on the back of my dress all night and it will be really annoying. Any other brides out there not have a bustle? How did everything turn out?
Post # 2
Just chop your dress so there’s no train. Why drag that around all day and waste a half hour of your reception bustling. I cut mine and have zero regrets!
Post # 3
Lovely dress. Any pictures of the back? how long is the train? It would be helpful if we could see what you’re working with.
Your seamstress sounds kinda rude though…
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2016 - Athol Hall, Mosman
Wow! That seamstress sounds pretty lazy and rude. There are plenty of brides with the same dress or with gowns that are similar in design that have been able to get their train bustled. She should’ve been honest and said that she might not be the one to see about this particular alteration.
My gown had a multilayered tulle skirt and my bridal salon told me up front that they couldn’t do my bustle (my train was long and they were worried that the weight of it would damage my dress). I absolutely appreciated their honesty. It didn’t take away from the stellar service I had gotten previously and they even gave me the idea to use nappy pins and showed me how to do a bustle on my own.
It wasn’t the greatest (thanks to my miniature stature) but everything worked out in the end with no damage at all.
Post # 5
I’m not doing a bustle.
Having a loop attached to the train to hold
maybe that would be a option?
Post # 6
I didn’t do a bustle. I had a ballgown style with a train and I just hated the look of a bustle.
Post # 7
I also thought the seamstress was being a little rude…she seemed really rushed as well so maybe she is really busy. Here is a picture of the back, the train isn’t actually that long so it might be alright, I was feeling rushed when I was there so I didn’t really have time to process what was happening. I’ll have her take some photos of the back when I go in for my next fitting.
Post # 8
We’re almost dress twins! Mine isn’t that exact one, but it looks just like it. Honestly, I usually think that bustling looks ugly and kills the dress. I guess it depends on the dress though. I plan on just wearing is as-is all night. It may mean that I hold it up all night, but it’s a one-time thing, haha.
Post # 9
I vote for a loop so you can just slip it on your wrist and have no worries. Take that with a grain of salt, because I tend to not like bustles anyway. 😉
Post # 10
Yeah I have really only seen a few bustles that I liked but I don’t think that a loop will work with all the layers. I think I’m just going to leave it as is and hope people don’t step on it to much. If someone has an example of a tulle dress with a loop for your wrist I’d love to see it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - Sunset Beach Resort, Siesta Key
I just made the decision on Friday to have them cut off my train because I can’t STAND the poof that my bustle creates. My Seamstress isn’t the most pleasant or easy to work with, so coming to that conclusion was hard but I just LOVE my dress and with the bustle she was creating it looked like a giant poof ball on my butt!
I try it on again next Friday with the train gone, so I’m hoping I made the right decision
Post # 12
Love this dress! My best friend wore it for her wedding in October and the detailing in the back is so stunning! She chose not to bustle it and just picked up the skirt and carried it when necessary. It was fine for her.
Post # 13
Thank you! It’s good to know that other brides have not bustled this dress and it was okay. I was thinking that I would just pick it up when I needed.
Post # 14
do you have to bustle your dress? of course not. but if you’re worried about people stepping on it, i can PROMISE you that it will happen without a bustle. that’s just something you need to accept if you’re going to keep the train and forgo the bustle. and are you having a dance party at your reception? because your train will get stepped on A LOT when it comes to dancing if it’s not bustled – it’s not uncommon to hear of trains being stepped on so much during dancing that the dress get ripped.
i’m not here to tell you that you must have a bustle (because i understand the lack of appeal – i’ve rarely seen a bustle that i liked), but i am just trying to convey the reality of the train + no bustle situation. You either have to chop your train, bustle your train, or accept that people will step on/possibly rip your train. Those are your three options – if there was a way to make sure your train came through without being damaged during the party, i really doubt if anyone would ever bustle their dresses.
Post # 15
Off-topic question, but is your flower crown real or fake flowers? That’s exactly the type of crown I’m looking for! Gorgeous!