Post # 1
I am one of those people that HATE bustles. Sorry, they look ugly… But, I have no choice but to bustle my dress for the reception (I have a french bustle on my lace dress).
I would love to show off my dress for the first dance, but not sure what people usually do. Will it be clumsy to dance our first dance if I have the train behind me? (It’s not like we can practice with the dress ahead of time!)
What is your advice? Should I bustle my dress for the first dance, or leave it as is for the sake of the pictures? What was your experience?
This is my dress, the Karena Royale by Maggie Sottero:
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 3
BUSTLE!! There is no way to dance without it bustled (IMO). It will make everything easier. Otherwise, you will find yourself tripping on the train, getting your heel(s) caught, etc.
Post # 4
I would definitely bustle your dress for your first dance. My bustle was left a little longer by my seamstress and I wish it had been up all they way, I was tripping on it and getting stepped on all night at my reception!
Post # 5
Goregeous dress!!! OMG – love it!
Coming from someone who has already done a first dance – bustle that thing! You cannot believe how annoying and awkward it is to try keeping it spread out and not completely in the way. So annoying! You just look clumsy and awkward dancing in it when its not bustled. I don’t like bustles either, but just wanted to give you my experience. Sorry
Post # 6
I had an all lace dress too! I bustled mine for the first dance and I’m glad I did.
Post # 7
bustle! or would you rather have a picture of yourself on the ground after tripping over your dress?
Post # 8
Definitely bustle!! I wish mine had been higher, as a PP said–it got ripped out and I had to redo it with safety pins. Not fun!
Post # 9
well if you’re planning to actually dance you would need to bustle cuz there’s no way you can dance and not trip over it. BUT if you are just planning to sway side to side without moving much you may be able to get away with not bustling it. But you’ll have to really limited your movements and not step backward AT ALL. Even turning might be a problem depending on how long your train is.
Post # 10
Another vote for bustle here! If you don’t, you’re likely to step on it and topple over! Plus, it’s going to get majorly dirty from the dance floor if you let it drag while you’re dancing. It will just be very much in the way and you absolutely don’t want to trip while you’re dancing!
Post # 11
Bustle it! We did a move where I was stepping backwards, and I kept tripping on my gown, even though it was bustled. Unless you are just swaying back and forth there is no way you can dance with a train.
Post # 12
Damn it! Not one person gave me the answer I wanted to hear!
Seems like I’m bustling for sure, unless I want to flash the guests… (after I fall flat on my face.)
Bustle it is…
Thanks for the answers! Better to know it now than to learn the hard way…
Post # 13
It sounds great in theory not to bustle a dress but my uncles wife didn’t bustle her dress for their first dance and she spent the entire time kicking it out of their way when they turned. It didn’t make fr a very romantic dance.
Post # 14
You’re going to be tripping over it if you don’t bustle it. It’s actually a safety hazard if you leave it down and try to get your groove on… Besides, people will have spent the entire ceremony looking at your train.
Post # 15
Bustle it. My mom bustled mine before we even ate, and then my husband’s extended family wanted a big group picture… During the commotion, my husband stepped on my dress, popped the hooks, and it couldn’t be bustled for the rest of the night. It was pretty hard to dance in like that. However, it can be done, it just isn’t very fun…
Post # 16
Bustle, and you might try to make sure there are 3 buttons/ties instead of just one button holding up the train- I’ve seen a LOT of bustles break halfway through the reception. Or if nothing else, have a few large safety pins on hand!