Post # 1
Okay, so here are the facts and I need some opinions from someone NOT involved.
My Darling Husband wants to buy a gun (for hunting). It is $550. He already has 3 guns that work for hunting but he says that this one is a different caliber (I know NOTHING about guns other than they go BANG so I don’t know if this is soooo important or not).
We live in a big city and he works 40 hours a week and goes to school full time. I am unemployed and am currently trying to get a job to help with our finances (because things have been tight).
He says he wants it for hunting but he NEVER has time to hunt, and by the time the hunt he wants comes around we don’t even know what state we will be living in and if he will have time to hunt at that time.
He says I just don’t understand… and he is correct. I feel like there are a lot of things we could do with $550 dollars…. like SAVE it for something we might need!
Post # 3
@SweetartMD: Why doesn’t he sell the other guns to pay/partially pay for this one, if he wants it so much? Or, is there another way to compromise?
Post # 4
@creativeplannertobee: Apparently they are all for different purposes…. So he can’t part with any.
Post # 5
@creativeplannertobee: +1 to selling the others!
I also don’t know a lot about guns but if I wanted a new one and I was the SOLE breadwinner in the house at the minute, I’d recycle my others into the new one.
Also, I agree with the lack of longevity of the purchase… if you move, who knows if you will even hunt?! And who NEEDS FOUR GUNS?!
I am with you on this one… save the money.
Post # 6
Different calipers are used for different animals. But, there is a good reason for him to buy the gun now – it may not be available or be that cheap in the near future. I say let him buy it, but only if he can justify it by saving somewhere else – ie other boy toys, games, etc.
Post # 7
If money is tight, then I’d definitely say no to the gun. When money is tight, it shouldn’t be spent on things you ‘want’, but rather things you ‘need.’ A new hunting gun, when he already has 3 others (I don’t care if they are for different animals), is not a necessity.
Post # 8
Another point I would like to make is that we REALLY need new tires for our car… and I think those are going to be EXPENSIVE! I would really like the spend the money on something like that that we REALLY need!
@nyscpa2be: Darling Husband said that the price probably won’t go up unless he buys it from an individual seller… since people are buying guns and selling them for more than they paid due to the gun crazyness that is going on in the country right now.
Post # 10
@SweetartMD: In that case, I change my answer. If it’ll be available at the same price in the future, then there is no need to purchase now. Save the money instead.
Post # 11
Money isn’t tight for us, but we’re wedding planning, so our money is getting sucked into a funnel.
Fi has expressed interest in getting a paintball gun.
1. There’s no paintball gun anywhere near here [he wants it for when he visits his family in california – 2,000 miles away. Yeah.. no.]
2. We need to worry about wedding plans and saving for a house.
He wasn’t happy I told him he couldn’t have it, but he understands. I told him we would discuss it the next time he’s actually in california.
Post # 12
Oy! I just went through this with my Fiance.
We both work full time and he makes about 3x more than I do. In the fall he went hunting at his uncles and came home with some farming equiptment he bought (we bought a really old farm house/barn/property last year and it came with a really old tractor, these parts will fit on said tractor and my Fiance wants to plow the fields and sow some seeds.. whatever).
He did ‘ask’ me but it was pretty much after he bought it off his uncle.. for $1000. He said it would be his Christmas and birthday present (his birthday was January 7).
Anyways, then BEFORE Christmas he goes hunting again with his friend and they are using black powder muzzle loaders (where you literally put old school black powder and then lead balls and shoot things) and he comes home WITH ONE (for $300)
I was pretty mad at first but hey, it makes him happy.. he almost never buys things (just when he does they are EXPENSIVE). He makes 3x more than me…. so hey… no more presents for the rest of the year!
Post # 13
@mrshollinger: Arg, my husband is very much like that. He doesn’t buy himself things OFTEN but when he does they are EXPENSIVE!
He just bought himself a new headset for the Xbox… which was $100. And we already have “issues” with how often he plays it… but its his stress reliever so I try to deal. And he buys himself “outdoorsy things” all the time… like GoPro accessories, rock climbing gear, ski stuff…
But those things get used A LOT… and he BARELY even touches his guns that he HAS.
Post # 14
@SweetartMD: If he is paying for it, and he has the money to do so without causing you to go hungry or miss a payment for something that matters, let him. If it severely cuts into your day to day finances, don’t tell him “no”. If he works for the money, he deserves to spend some on himself. create a budget plan and see if it fits. If it doesn’t fit, he’ll realize it when you make the plan TOGETHER. Don’t tell him what to do.
I am in your shoes now. My fiancé is an archer, and he just bought (another) $500 bow. Would I prefer he spend the money on our wedding? Yes. But who am I to tell him that he should spend his money on $500 wedding invitations and stds. He earned it. We can always save in other areas.
Post # 15
If he can get it at a similar price later then I’d vote to wait. It’d be wiser to wait until you are settled down physically and financially and then discuss it again.
I’m from Louisiana and guns are a BIG DEAL here and I love shooting skeet. But, with that said, some things really are more important! (like tires/living expenses in your case)
Guns and hunting does weird things to men’s head…maybe try to rationally explain why you can’t afford it now and hope he understands the need to postpone it.
Post # 16
@OnceUponATime: Its not that I am “telling him what to do” its that we discuss these kind of things together because they are BIG purchases. I just kind of get a big say because I am the “budget person” in our relationship.
If it were up to Darling Husband we would be living high on the hog… but have NOTHING for our future. We want to buy a house soon and I want to start TTC in a year or so, so I am VERY focused on future stuff.