(Closed) To buy or not to buy? That is the question!

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: To buy or not to buy
    Let him buy the gun! : (7 votes)
    15 %
    Save it for future expenses! : (29 votes)
    62 %
    Save Bambi! : (11 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    7693 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @SweetartMD:  Why doesn’t he sell the other guns to pay/partially pay for this one, if he wants it so much? Or, is there another way to compromise?

    Post # 5
    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @creativeplannertobee:  +1 to selling the others!

    I also don’t know a lot about guns but if I wanted a new one and I was the SOLE breadwinner in the house at the minute, I’d recycle my others into the new one.

    Also, I agree with the lack of longevity of the purchase… if you move, who knows if you will even hunt?! And who NEEDS FOUR GUNS?!

    I am with you on this one… save the money.

    Post # 6
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Different calipers are used for different animals.  But, there is a good reason for him to buy the gun now – it may not be available or be that cheap in the near future.  I say let him buy it, but only if he can justify it by saving somewhere else – ie other boy toys, games, etc.

    Post # 7
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If money is tight, then I’d definitely say no to the gun. When money is tight, it shouldn’t be spent on things you ‘want’, but rather things you ‘need.’ A new hunting gun, when he already has 3 others (I don’t care if they are for different animals), is not a necessity.

    Post # 10
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @SweetartMD:  In that case, I change my answer.  If it’ll be available at the same price in the future, then there is no need to purchase now.  Save the money instead.

    Post # 11
    8579 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @celticbride:  This!

    Money isn’t tight for us, but we’re wedding planning, so our money is getting sucked into a funnel.

    Fi has expressed interest in getting a paintball gun.

    1. There’s no paintball gun anywhere near here [he wants it for when he visits his family in california – 2,000 miles away. Yeah.. no.]

    2. We need to worry about wedding plans and saving for a house.

    He wasn’t happy I told him he couldn’t have it, but he understands. I told him we would discuss it the next time he’s actually in california.

    Post # 12
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Oy! I just went through this with my Fiance.

    We both work full time and he makes about 3x more than I do.  In the fall he went hunting at his uncles and came home with some farming equiptment he bought (we bought a really old farm house/barn/property last year and it came with a really old tractor, these parts will fit on said tractor and my Fiance wants to plow the fields and sow some seeds.. whatever).

    He did ‘ask’ me but it was pretty much after he bought it off his uncle.. for $1000. He said it would be his Christmas and birthday present (his birthday was January 7).

    Anyways, then BEFORE Christmas he goes hunting again with his friend and they are using black powder muzzle loaders (where you literally put old school black powder and then lead balls and shoot things) and he comes home WITH ONE (for $300)

    I was pretty mad at first but hey, it makes him happy.. he almost never buys things (just when he does they are EXPENSIVE). He makes 3x more than me…. so hey… no more presents for the rest of the year!

    Post # 14
    1681 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SweetartMD:  If he is paying for it, and he has the money to do so without causing you to go hungry or miss a payment for something that matters, let him. If it severely cuts into your day to day finances, don’t tell him “no”. If he works for the money, he deserves to spend some on himself. create a budget plan and see if it fits. If it doesn’t fit, he’ll realize it when you make the plan TOGETHER. Don’t tell him what to do. 

    I am in your shoes now. My fiancé is an archer, and he just bought (another) $500 bow. Would I prefer he spend the money on our wedding? Yes. But who am I to tell him that he should spend his money on $500 wedding invitations and stds. He earned it.  We can always save in other areas. 


    Post # 15
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If he can get it at a similar price later then I’d vote to wait. It’d be wiser to wait until you are settled down physically and financially and then discuss it again.

    I’m from Louisiana and guns are a BIG DEAL here and I love shooting skeet. But, with that said, some things really are more important! (like tires/living expenses in your case)

    Guns and hunting does weird things to men’s head…maybe try to rationally explain why you can’t afford it now and hope he understands the need to postpone it.

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