(Closed) To buy, or to wed? That, is the question!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which would you choose?
    Buy a house this year and get married next year : (38 votes)
    32 %
    Get married this year and buy a house next year : (52 votes)
    44 %
    Buy a house this year and elope : (25 votes)
    21 %
    Other??? Please explain! : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We did the exact same thing

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @juliette.eliza: “finally” getting married, and it’s “about time!” and basically implying that we should have done that first, then bought the house…



    I think you are completely twisting words. If I said “finally” in a situation like yours it would NEVER mean you “should have married first then bought” Finally sometimes just means “FINALLY!”

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We bought a house and didn’t get married for another 3 years.  Well technicially, he bought the house.  There’s no one right answer for everyone, just depends!  

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Fiance and I really don’t want to buy before we combine finances and are joined legally. For us, that is marriage. However, many of my friends did it your order and finally meant “we finally get to have this awesome party!’

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @juliette.eliza:  I think you’re forgetting to consider religous beliefs I’d be willing to place a good sum of money that the people saying those things also don’t think couples should be cohabitating before marriage. While people are perfectly entitled to have their own beliefs y’all are allowed to do whatever the eff you want with your money. I think you need to shrug it off.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    As noted, the word “finally” can have different meanings in different contexts

    How old were the people making these comments ?

    20-Somethings and 30-Somethings are used to couples getting more settled BEFORE getting married (University Degrees – Career Establishment – Cars – Houses – even Kids)

    Folks who are 40 and above, tend to see this as perhaps a backwards way of doing this… because when they were in their 20s many of us got married somewhere in the process of the first 3 (after University – during Career Establishment – or around the time they bought a car).  Houses and Kids came later

    There really isn’t anything WRONG with either model… but there can be drawbacks to both.

    Marriage first and then money can be tighter later.

    Otherstuff first, and put off having kids until you are in your 30s and getting pregnant can be problematic… not to mention the fact that it is tougher to run around after a toddler when you are older

     

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We bought our house 2 years ago and now we are getting married at the end of the year :))

    Post # 11
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    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We have been in our gorgeous newly built dream home for 2 years this coming July, our wedding is this coming August. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We bought a house together 2 years ago, getting married later this year. Just how it worked out – I know our friends are now getting married but have no house, but they will get one soon, so it doesnt really matter!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We originally wanted to buy a house, and throw a wedding in the yard (we want land). But we’re just not able to do that financially right now (my mom is paying for the wedding). And secondly only God knows where we’re going end up since he plans on planting a mission and obviously I’ll be going with him. 

    ETA: if where we were going end up wasn’t such a huge question mark we would buy a house and elope in a heartbeat. 

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