(Closed) To cash the check, or not to cash….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When should I write the thank you note?
    Now : (38 votes)
    88 %
    Shortly after the wedding : (5 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would cash it now and send a thank you note now.  You don’t want someone to forget about it and it hits their bank in three months time, or they might get paranoid it got lost in the mail.  On the thank you card put something like “can’t wait to see you at the wedding!” 

    Post # 4
    13251 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Cash it now and write the thank you note now.  It’ll be one less to write later, anyway!

    Post # 5
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We wrote them a thank you note so they knew we received the check and waited until after the wedding to cash all of our checks.

    Post # 6
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree with the PPs. You should write the thank you now so that they know you’ve received the check, and cash it so you don’t mess up their book keeping

    Post # 7
    7606 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I agree.  Cash now, thank now!

    Post # 8
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We wrote thank you notes as we received the gifts, (except the ones we got right before the wedding).  I would also deposite the check now so it doesn’t mess up the giver’s bookkeeping.  

    Post # 9
    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would cash it now & send a thank you now so it doesn’t mess up their book keeping as PP’s mentioned!

    Post # 10
    707 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I agree with PPs. Most people (myself included) don’t like to have checks out uncashed for a long time. I’m sure they knew they were sending early and were obviously ok with you getting it and cashing it now, otherwise they would have waited 🙂 And definitely send the thank you right away!

    Post # 11
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    You should always cash the cheque now.  It is not polite to monkey about with people’s finances and book keeping.

    You should always thank gift givers as promptly as possible, with the gold standard being getting the card in the mail before you go to sleep on the night it is received.


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