(Closed) to change e -ring or not?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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7457 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

All I need to hear is “my fiancé is upset” for me to think its better for you to stick with the ring he chose for you. Maybe get a more blingy wedding band to make up for the difference?

Post # 4
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2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@MrsKitty:  explain “slightly larger”. If it is really a small difference then why upset him by upgrading? He obviously has sentimental attachment to the original.

Post # 5
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6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t.

Post # 8
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MrsKitty:  The difference between .6 carats and .75 probably won’t be worth it in the long run, if your fiance is upset…It’s such a small difference anyway, why hurt his feelings? Maybe you can upgrade in 5 or 10 years- it’ll probably be a much bigger upgrade then, anyway!

Post # 9
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5405 posts
Bee Keeper

For .15 of a carat, I wouldn’t risk upsetting him. That’s barely noticeable. If we were talking a half a carat I might have a different opinion, but don’t upset him for that. 

Post # 10
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855 posts
Busy bee

Not worth it! Just get an awesome band or two

Post # 12
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304 posts
Helper bee

Not worth it. Stick with your original ring. 

Post # 13
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MrsKitty:  I guess I have a different point of view from most bees because I think YOU are the person who has to wear it EVERY day and you should LOVE it!! You aren’t asking for a 3 carat ring or anything crazy- it is totally worth the $300 if it makes you LOVE LOVE the ring.  An engagement is about a promise, not the ring, and upgrading your ring now doesn’t alter that promise at all.  Also, I would rather upgrade the ring before you get married than 5-10 years after you get married so that your ring is the ring you wore on your wedding day- that is in itself special!  And if he doesn’t want you to upgrade now, I don’t know why other bees would like he would be okay with it down the line.  In the end, I am sure your fiance would want you to be happy!

Post # 14
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4952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@BlondeMissMolly: For .15 of a carat, I wouldn’t risk upsetting him. That’s barely noticeable. If we were talking a half a carat I might have a different opinion, but don’t upset him for that.

Ditto. 

Post # 15
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Fiance nervously emphasized that we can get a different ring if I wanted to after he proposed lol. And if I hadn’t liked it I may have considered an exchange only because we’re both EXTREMELY practical people and for me to dislike the ring he worked so hard to buy would be a waste. So in general I do support changing the ring if you don’t like it.

But that said, if I were you I think I’d take that “extra” bit of money and put it towards getting something EXTRA wonderful for the wedding band. Your finger may look a little lonely during the engagement period, but if you get a band that you aboslutely love it’ll be worth it. The two can balance each other out. 

Post # 16
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8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Well, your Fiance is going to be upset either way.  First, you mentioned you want a larger ring, so that upset him.  Second, if you do get it, you’ve just crushed him.  Third, if you don’t go larger, he’ll always know in the back of his mind that you wanted a different ring.

I think you’re screwed no matter what you do.

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