(Closed) To change last name or not? Hyphen? Opinions needed!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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mfox89:  My name is Summer Dawn D’Ambra and I love it. When I marry Fiance I will become Summer Dawn Harcovitz. My cursive Z is horrible! And Hyphens don’t work Summer Dawn D’Ambra Harcovitz is a mouthful and I don’t wanna give up Summer Dawn. So I feel you op

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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MelissaandKyle:  OOOh yeah or create one new family name Foxporter because that sounds AWESOME  Miranda Foxporter sounds pretty awesome too!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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mfox89:  You both have good last names, but Fox is waaaaay cooler than Porter! I think you should both change your names, but to Porter Fox, NOT Fox Porter. You can be Miranda Porter Fox and he can be Michale Porter Fox. Sounds awesome, you’ll have the coolest names in your social group.

I assume you said he can’t be Michael Fox because…of the actor…?? Or is there some other reason? Because nobody knows the actor as Michael Fox, that’s just a generic name. The actor is Michael J Fox. So long as he doesn’t change his middle name to James, you’re fine.

If there is to be no fiancé name-changing, you should seriously consider keeping your own name. Especially if you might not have kids (you can always reevaluate if they do turn up — no, it’s not weird to change your name way after you’re married).

Changing to Fox Porter is no better than dropping Fox altogether, you’ll for sure become just Miranda Porter. Boo! Boring! And obviously hyphenation is disgusting. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think Porter-Fox has a really classy ring to it 🙂

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

That’s our plan too OP. We’re both 26 and iffy on kids, but if we do have them and I keep both last names, they would just get his.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

The nice thing about your choice is that nothing is really wrong!

My maiden name is a woman’s name, so I had ALWAYS USED 3 names for my legal signature. (Sally Ann Jane). When I married, I moved my maiden name and took DH’s name, no hyphen. ( Sally Jane Johnson).

It has worked Fine!

Post # 37
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Helper bee

You can wait to change your name, it isnt weird at all. I don’t like hyphenated names though. Maybe you could do Porter as your middle name?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I took my husband’s last name (which is not odd or embarrassing at all) and I regret it every day. I am considering changing it back to my maiden name. My only hang up is that I don’t want my last name to be different from my daughter’s. 🙁

Post # 40
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Helper bee

If I were you, I would either hyphenate or keep my maiden name. My last name is a mouthful, but I love it. I hyphenated it into the strangest/longest last name ever. Still love it. 

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee

My mom kept her maiden name when she married my dad for career reasons, similar to what others have posted. She always planned to change her name, if she and my dad had kids. Well, I’m 25 and she still has her maiden name. Why? Careers moved further ahead, more folks knew her with her maiden name, etc. What I’m saying, is if you are having a hard time changing your name now, it is not going to be easier down the road once kiddos pop up to change your name. Your same hesitations will still be there (if not worse).

It wasn’t the end of the world, but I didn’t like that my parents had different last names. Everyone always assumed they were divorced. When my mom was “Jane Smith” but my name is “Sally Brown”, no one knew which kid belonged to Jane Smith. Sounds silly, but as a kid, I disliked it a lot. My mom always answered to Mrs. Brown and Mrs. Smith. It was confusing. I never liked it. 

Fast forward: my name is my first name, mom’s maiden name, dad’s last name. So, each name has a meaning and purpose behind it. When Fiance and I are married, I will drop my last name (dad’s name) and take my husband’s name. It’s really important to me and Fiance to have the same last name. Our last names rhyme, so hyphen was out of the question. When you get married, two become one. You are eachother’s identities, you’re a team.  

Just my two cents

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I would keep fox professionally.  It’s not terribly uncommon to use a different name, and at least you’re using a real name versus one you made up to sound cool.  I can’t wait to change my name and begin using it.  My son is 5 and he’s excited to change his name as well.  My ex was gone before my son was even born, so I gave him my last name from birth.  The ex might argue a bit about the name change, but it’s not his name anyways!  My son and I will both be changing to FI’s name asap!  It’s also shorter and easier to spell than my own, which people constantly get wrong.

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My husband and I both hyphenated and it’s working great,for us

Post # 44
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Worker bee

I use my first and last name heavily in my business, but I’m old fashioned with the name changing and my Fiance said my name with his last name once and the smile he had on his face just made me want to cry he seemed so happy. So I will be changing my name and I’ll just have to transition over my work info in such a way to make clients and potential clients understand I got married! I’m happy with this decision.

With that said, it’s completely your choice nowadays! Lots of people keep their names! Whatever makes you and FH happy!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think that with those two last names, you can’t go wrong with any variation you pick!

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