Post # 16
Why has this become a thing at weddings??? We were at one this summer and they had one. I thought it was the strangest thing. I’d have to say no to that. No way would I do that. It wasn’t fun to watch, I had no idea of the backstory, and the dancing was awful It was terrible to watch.
Post # 17
Get drunk as a skunk, then go rogue and cabbage patch for four minutes, because fuck this girl. Friends don’t make friends do choreographed dance routines.
Post # 18
I am having a vicarious anxiety attack at the mere thought of this. JUST SAY NO.
Post # 19
I am as uncoordinated AF and would die rather than do this . You have to say no , over and over over and over till she gets it . I recently had to refuse a similar sort of thing and I ended up actually saying I would rather die and if there was any thought of impromptu making it happen I woud publically decline and if necessay , leave . It did work.
Post # 20
the other bridesmaids – the majority are from her fiancées side and they’re all loving it since they’re the ones who created the damn dance routine. They don’t understand my hesitation. The few from her side are mixed – some are going with it and one or two are resistant. She has 12 of BMs, most from his side.
Post # 21
I’m going to tell her, I’m just trying to find the time to tell her at this point. It’s her day and I don’t want to make it about me being uncomfortable.
Post # 22
that’s what I’m going to go with. It’s easier than saying I hate this lol
Post # 23
thumperbear : hikingbride :
that’s exactly how I feel – like girl, you and I have been friends for over 10 years and you’re hitting me with the dancing bullshit. The other BMs are warming to the idea and I’m the only one who is firmly against it. It’s her day and I look like I’m making it about me. I have serious anxiety about the routine and telling her. The Bridal Brunch is tomorrow and I don’t want to burst her bubble then, I don’t know when I’m going to tell her exactly. The “final” practice was yesterday – there were only 2 official ones and I was able to bow out because I worked but she was so insistent. She’s like, I’ll film it for you so you can practice at home. 🙄 I’m going to have to tell her before the wedding – NEXT Sunday. I’ve been super excited about the wedding up until she dropped the dancing bomb.
Post # 24
Most brides manage to have “their special day” and not treat their loved ones like puppets or show ponies. This is NOT making her day about you. You have the right to choose what you do with your body, even on someone else’s wedding day.
I would tell her “I won’t be able to do the dance. Does this mean you don’t want me to be a bridesmaid?” I would say it exactly like that, nothing more, nothing less. Don’t apologize because there’s nothing to be sorry for, and don’t give an excuse because she’ll have an arguement for every objection. If she whines or persists “come on, it’ll be fun!” “of course you can!” etc, just repeat: “I’m not doing the dance.” And if she is shitty enough to kick you out of the bridal party, I’d make her say it out loud so she can hear how awful she is.