(Closed) to dance or not to dance? HELP! SOS!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: To Dance or Not to Dance?


    Don't dance!

    Break your own ankle and get out of it!

  • Post # 16
    1223 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1995

    Why has this become a thing at weddings???  We were at one this summer and they had one.  I thought it was the strangest thing.  I’d have to say no to that.  No way would I do that.  It wasn’t fun to watch, I had no idea of the backstory, and the dancing was awful  It was terrible to watch.

    Post # 17
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Get drunk as a skunk, then go rogue and cabbage patch for four minutes, because fuck this girl. Friends don’t make friends do choreographed dance routines.

    Post # 18
    1149 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I am having a vicarious anxiety attack at the mere thought of this.  JUST SAY NO.

    Post # 19
    10080 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I am as uncoordinated AF and  would die rather than do this .  You have to say no  , over and over over  and  over till she gets it .  I recently had to refuse a similar sort of thing   and I ended up actually saying I would rather die and if there was any thought of impromptu making it happen I woud publically decline and if necessay , leave  . It did work.

    Post # 24
    9126 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    ladyserena :  Most brides manage to have “their special day” and not treat their loved ones like puppets or show ponies. This is NOT making her day about you. You have the right to choose what you do with your body, even on someone else’s wedding day. 

    I would tell her “I won’t be able to do the dance. Does this mean you don’t want me to be a bridesmaid?” I would say it exactly like that, nothing more, nothing less. Don’t apologize because there’s nothing to be sorry for, and don’t give an excuse because she’ll have an arguement for every objection. If she whines or persists “come on, it’ll be fun!” “of course you can!” etc, just repeat: “I’m not doing the dance.” And if she is shitty enough to kick you out of the bridal party, I’d make her say it out loud so she can hear how awful she is. 

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