- 7 years ago
I am trying to do this whole thing on a 10k budget. And we have up to 200 people. So things are tight, needless to say.
We have chosen a beautiful historic chapel for the ceremony. And as far as I am concerned… it needs NOTHING as far as decoration. There are some left over decor from a previous wedding when we went to take photos so those things will be gone. As beautiful as it is… most of that anyway will be blocked once the wedding party stands up there. Plus it is a daytime ceremony and as you can see the place is flooded with sunshine.
My fiance just enlisted the help of a friend of his that is a wedding planner. She immediately started telling him all of the things we must get to decorate the chapel with. Flowers, live plants, candelabras, candles… And I am like “WHAT???” I don’t plan on buying ANY FLOWERS … they are completely wasted money as far as I am concerned. And candelabras and candles that won’t be seen because it is already so bright and they will be blocked by us when we stand up there anyway….
I don’t know his friends as we live in different states and I hate to get off on the wrong foot by coming accros as a complete control freak… but I really don’t want to spend money on stuff like a “US-RENTS-IT-nothing-screams-cheesy-80’s-wedding-candelabra” or those horrible lattice-work arches.
What I really would RATHER spend my money on is Pipe and Drape to cover this disaster of a dance studio we are having our reception in because it is a convenient and cheaper alternative to a hotel banquet room. And here the wedding planner friend keeps insisting that we must do centerpieces that are Tall, because that is what is in. And again with the plants… we NEED plants on the table.
What is the deal here? Do ALL weddings have to look the same? How do I tactfully put my foot down about someone else spending my limited money on items that I believe are a waste…. and quite frankly, not ME.