(Closed) To Demanding?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Am I asking too much?
    yes : (10 votes)
    50 %
    no : (10 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    if you have 2 showers, which is totally normal, they should be 2 completely different guest lists and 2 different hosts. your family could host one and your bridal party could host the other. if your bridal party is worried about the expense though, don’t push it. they are under no obligation to host a shower.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We only did a shower in our current town.  My sisters both travelled here for it (they actually hosted it), but the rest of our families didn’t make the trip.  The rest of the family will be coming to the wedding, so I didn’t think having them at the shower was a big deal.  Obviously, it may matter  more to you, and if that’s the case having your mother host a “family shower” in your home town, and having your wedding party host a couples shower in your home town sounds like a good idea.

    Post # 6
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    @kitzy: This is what we are doing. 2 showers in two different states. Future Mother-In-Law wanted to host one near her and my Maid/Matron of Honor is hosting one near my family.  The bridal party does not have to go to both and can choose which one they want to go to since not everyone is from the same area.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’ve heard of this from people whose one side live hours away but an hour and a half isn’t like an overnight trip. I would talk to some people…maybe they would have no problem traveling for the jack n jill.

    Post # 8
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    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i’m not sure what a “jack and jill” is

    Post # 9
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    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @rlsh86: Its a shower or party for BOTH the bride and groom (not just one or the other).  You hear it for bridal showers, bachelor parties, etc. 

    I think having 2 showers is perfectly fine!!  Many people do it in  the same situation you’re in.  But, I’m not sure what the question of the poll means?

    Are you asking too much?  for what … 2 showers???  Then my answer is “no, not at all”  🙂

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think two showers is fine in your situation.  I know people who have had two showers in the same town.

    No one should be invited (or expected to bring a gift) to both showers.  I would probably even tell my BMs that they don’t have to come to both.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t think you should expect your bridal party to attend both events, just have them attend/organize the joint bachelor/bachelorette party and have only local family for the shower in your home town.

    How much overlap is there between the two guest lists? Maybe I’m way off here but do you not normally invite older relatives (aunties, grandma etc) to the shower but not to the bachelorette party? Bachelorette parties tend to be more for your friends and showers for other people in your life who may not want to/be appropriate for to join you in painting the town red.

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I don’t think travelling an hour and a half is a big deal. We went to a Jack and Jill two hours away, and were no worse for the wear. If your friends don’t seem like they want to host a separate shower, just have the one. Have it closer to your family if they are hosting it, and your friends can carpool to get there. It’s cheaper than hosting an entirely different party.

    Also – you don’t *have* to have two separate showers. You can always just have the shower and the bachelorette. Also – after reading one of your responses, are you saying you want the Jack and Jill so you get money instead of gifts? Because we totally did gifts for the ones I’ve been to. Just FYI if that was the reasoning.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @njm1313:

    thank you for explaining!

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