(Closed) To "destination" or not to "destination?"

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We decided not to when reality hit, and we realized that it would be more expensive for us (venue started trying to rip us off) AND for our guests (hotel prices were absurd)

So we looked around and booked at a country club resturant – it’s been super laid-back and easy there! Not to mention the price is right.

It’s a bit out of the way for most people (maybe 40 minutes?) and for us, but it gave us the best bang for our buck with a non-sleazy staff to boot (meaning it’s not all money money, which was nice).

Anyway, have you looked at some venues in mid-NJ? I know Laurita Winery is near Philly but not terribly far away – we looked there and it was lovely (but just too far for us). The indoor space had great views and was such a cool design, the outdoor space was tucked away and private.
But that area might be a great comprimise, and hopefully a better price than staying within Philedelphia City.

I think you have more cons for your own expenses and your guests in the “destination” version of things, so it may be a good time to look at comprimises. :/
I know, it’s hard! I hated it (and I still do!) but it gets better once you find the right place (doesn’t need to be “perfect” but needs to be right for you guys!)

Post # 4
3292 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We also had a “driving destination” wedding. Our families are scattered all over the country, as are our friends, so we knew that most of the guests would be traveling no matter where we held the wedding. We also live in an expensive city (NYC) and couldn’t find anything in our budget here that we liked, which is why we started searching outside of the city. We found something affordable that we liked, and we booked it. We realized that no location would be perfect for everyone, and that we had to just choose what worked best for us (within reason).


Since it was a “destination” wedding of sorts, we ended up paying for ALL of our guests’ meals from Friday dinner through Sunday breakfast. That made us feel better about the destination aspect of it, but it did kind of cut into our cost savings. 


I guess my advice is just do what works for you, realize no one place is going to satisfy everyone’s desires perfectly, and don’t drive yourself crazy overthinking it. :0)


Post # 5
8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would keep it in Pennsylvania. I would feel bad making 100% of my guests travel!

Post # 6
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I would keep it in Philly. I’m probably biased, bc I have never been there, but if I were going to travel for a wedding I’d like it to be someplace I’d like to see and explore. Plus, I’m not into kayaking, hiking, so on. Like you said, people might need to make it a vacation…which is tricky. 

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