(Closed) To do a First Look or not to do a First Look?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did a first look and it was great!  It made it great that we had a chance to be together without having to worry about having people looking at us.  Also, we could take pictures without having a very long cocktail hour.  We didn’t do the most unique thing for the first look.  My husband was sitting at the front of the building and I came around the corner.

 

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Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The pictures are really cute & everything, but we want to see each other as we walk down the aisle.

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are doing it 🙂

We went back and forth, back and forth on this issue. At first we were totally against it and wouldn’t even consider it. Then reality set in, that we really didn’t want to make all of our Out of Town guests (99% of the list) wait around for hours while we get photographed. Then we looked at each other and were like “What do we think we’re celebrities or something?” and realized it was the right decision.

A big bonus is that the first time you see each other is in private so that’s your moment only (besides the photographer). Also, my sister just did it at her wedding a few weeks ago and it worked out great. She was still a nervous wreck walking down the aisle so I don’t think it took anything away from that moment either. Just make sure your hair/makeup person is there for a touchup right before you walk down, no problems.

Post # 6
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have to say that it didn’t make the walk down the aisle any less special.  I still completely zoned out and couldn’t hear or see anything but him at the end.

Post # 7
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We did a first look! I cannot recommend it enough. We originally weren’t going to do it. We thought that having that moment as I walk down the aisle was the end-all, be-all moment. BUT our DOC and photographer twisted our arms, and I have never looked back.

Pros:

1. You get more time for photos without potentially stalling your reception. You’ve hired a photographer, probably paid them a ton of moolah, you might as well take your time with them and get all the photos you can.

2. You’ll feel more relaxed and enjoy your time together. There won’t be as much pressure as the aisle walk. You’ll have more time to really take in the moment of seeing each other for the first time and just relax and breathe.

3. The aisle walk is still special. My husband said he didn’t think it lost any of its meaning. Me, however? For me, it was over in the blink of an eye, and I’m so glad we did the first look because of that.

4. You’ll get to enjoy cocktail hour with your guests! I think this was the biggest reason for doing the first look. We got all the pictures done beforehand, so after the ceremony, we went straight to cocktail hour and celebrated with our guest. There was also less pressure at the reception to see everyone because of this as well.

Post # 8
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@pmerr, I know of a wedding where the couple did a first look, and the photographer suggested they do it with her walking down the aisle and him waiting at the front.  It was still special for her (because she definitely wanted that moment), but it allowed them one-on-one time before the ceremony and of course, time for pictures.

To answer the original question though: yes, we’re planning on doing a first look.  I want to see Mr. Foxy before the ceremony for a little grounding time (I know I’ll be nervous) and to remember what the day is really about.  Plus, it allows time for pictures so it doesn’t cut into are already short reception time.  🙂

Post # 9
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2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are going to do one to streamline the day and not have our guests wait for us to take photos.  I’d like to actually be present for some of our cocktail hour and be able to mingle and spend time with our guests (some of whom are traveling long distances to celebrate with us).  It’s actually a pet peeve of mine when couples take 1-2 hours to do photos after the ceremony, only to have their guests wait around for them… that’s just my 2 cents. 

Post # 10
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re doing a first look. it’s easier for us to make that decision because it’s mainly for religious reasons- we have to sign the ketubah before the ceremony so we will be seeing each other before anyway. i don’t think i would have thought to do it otherwise, but now i’m glad we are. we’ll get a ton of pictures this way- i was just in a wedding where the photographer had to rush the pictures and the bride was very disapointed in the results and lack of pictures. i don’t see that happening with us! also, i’m dreading the walk down the isle. i don’t like to be center of attention, i don’t like people looking at me, and i feel like that’s what the ceremony will be. i think it will help to have some alone time with my fi before all of that to calm my nerves.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

We are not doing first look.  I really wanted to, initially, to get pictures out of the way, to not miss out on the cocktail hour and celebration with our guests.  But, the ceremony has always been the most important part of a wedding to me.  I talked to some photogs that said the emotion is different between couples that did or did not do the first look.  And, I really want the ‘build’ of not seeing each other until that very moment.  I may not make the most sense logistically and we are doing a 1 1/2 hour cocktail hour (with enough to keep our guests entertained) while we capture photos.  I’m thrilled Fiance is on board with this plan!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re doing it – I’m so excited! If nothing else it’ll calm me down before the actual ceremony too, at least that’s what I’m hoping.

Post # 13
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1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Part of me thinks I’ll be too nervous having him see me for the first time in front of EVERYONE, but then I think how special it will be to have the first time be for the actual ceremony, on my dad’s arm in the full WEDDING setting.

I think timing could be a big motivator too.  If you don’t have a lot of time between ceremony and reception (like if they’re at the same place) it would make sense to see each other beforehand and be able to knock off a bunch of photos then.

Post # 14
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Fiance is pretty traditional, so no first look for us.  The first time he will see me on our wedding day is when I walk down the aisle.  Eek!  Really, I can’t wait to look into his eyes as I start my walk down the aisle towards him.  We’ll be doing photos during the cocktail hour… and still trying to make it back to the cocktail hour (actually hour and a half) about 15 mins before it ends.  I’m a little worried that this will make our photos feel rushed though…

Post # 15
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

Hi I highly regret not doing a first look. It made the formal photos with us feel so rushed and we had ample time pre ceremony to do them. sigh, I hope you do it!

Post # 16
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re definitely doing it. I know I’m going to be a big ball of nerves on that day, so I know I’ll need to see him before the ceremony. We also like the idea of getting a bulk of the pictures done beforehand, so that there isn’t a big break between the ceremony and reception. It’s actually one of the aspects of the day that I look forward to the most. I think it will end up being really special because it’s just us (and a photographer).

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