(Closed) To Do or Not to Do

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Who is placing registry info in the invitations?
    Yes, who cares about the ettiquette?! : (8 votes)
    18 %
    No, I think that is tacky and would never do that. : (36 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 3
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    sorry, but it’s a definite no. Are you having a shower? It is ok to include registry information in the shower invitations.

    Post # 4
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    All the wedding invites I’ve ever received included that little card that said, “Bride & Groom registered at _________.”  I’ve heard about this rule and never really understood it.  I guess your can personalize each invite and only include the little card in those invites going to the crazy aunts and uncles and the rest should just include a card with your wedding website info. 

    Post # 5
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    No.  Just no.  If your crazy aunt and uncle (or whoever) really really need to know where you are registered, they can call your parents or whoever you are close to who will tell them.  Or they will just bring cash.  It is beyond tacky (even though I don’t like to use that word!) and rude to put the info on the invites.

    Post # 6
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I voted no (but I don’t necessarily think it is “tacky”) because I think putting it on the website and word of mouth really does suffice.  Almost everyone asked us directly, asked my parents or his parents, or found out from the website.  We received very few presents that weren’t from our registries.

    Post # 8
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Yeah, definite no. I’m pretty lax on etiquette, but this is one I think most people will follow.

    The reason behind the guideline is so that it doesn’t look like you’re asking for gifts, because at a wedding, they’re technically optional.

    Put your website address on an enclosure with your invitation. You can’t prevent everyone from going off your registry. There will always be someone who will ignore it and get you a strange gift from somewhere else, even though they’re the most tech-savvy person on the planet and know about weddings and gift-giving.

    Stick to etiquette on this one!

    Post # 9
    1454 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’m not voting because I think my idea falls in the middle. I think it’s tacky to put ANYTHING like that (website, registry info) on an invite, but I find a paper insert in the invitation envelope acceptable. Like maybe put “for hotel suggestions, full menu listing, and registry information, please visit our site at www dot whatever dot com” and then have it as an insert as to not make your invitation itself tacky.

    Although note- even if you don’t do it, your crazy aunt who lives far away will just call your mom or your other aunt or SOMEONE (maybe even you) when she wants to buy you a present. I always ask around or search sites that are common like target, bbb, pottery barn, etc.

    Post # 10
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would not include any registry information on or in your invitations. You could include your website address on an enclosure, but that’s about it. Do you have a wedding party? You could ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to spread the word. And if people ask you directly, I think it’s ok to tell them, but putting it on the invitation seems like fishing for gifts. After all, even though most people give wedding gifts, it’s not a requirement for a guest to give the couple a gift.

    Post # 11
    3285 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    i no longer believe in the word tacky, but i just don’t like the idea of putting them in the invites as a personal opinion.

    Post # 13
    4023 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree that word of mouth and computer are not the best way for people to find out! You can always add a little card into the envelope with the invite that states were you are registered.

    Post # 15
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    That info will be on our wedding website and included in the shower invites but will be no where near our wedding invitations.  Anyone who wants to know where you are registered will ask your mom/aunt/whoever, so just pass the info on to them.  And if your crazy aunt isn’t going to ask anyone where you’re registered, she probably wasn’t going to get you anything off the registry anyway.  Crazy aunts, in my experience, are strictly off-registry types 🙂

    Post # 16
    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    @frugal faye LOL about crazy aunts. 100% true.

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