(Closed) To do or not to do?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you doing the garter and bouquet toss at your reception?
    Yes we are doing a garter and bouquet toss : (33 votes)
    31 %
    No we are not doing them, leaves more dancing time! : (75 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    No one will miss it. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    we are doing the longest couple dance– i had ordered 5 bm boquets but one bm dropped out… so the florist is gonna have purple white and orange in this boquet to be giving to the longest married couple… we are also doing the bouquet toss because there is 15 singles ladies not including teenagers and little girls. the garter toss i think there is 10 guys… plus the toss bouquet is gonna be 5 mini bouquets so 5 girls get to have it.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Most guests wouldn’t miss it, honesly. We’re doing it, because it’s the only time ever I’ll be on the throwing end. I’ll have at least 7 single ladies I can think of off the top of my head, and that’s just my side. I’m not sure about the guys, but there will be at least 6. I’ve heard of people doing a separate toss for kids, if you want to do something like that. Like, you throw a stuffed animal dressed like a bride, and he throws one dressed like a groom. I’m sure you could do something fun like that?

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No one I know gets all excited about these things.  “YAAAY boquest toss!!!”-NOT I really don’t think any of the guests will care.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    No one will miss it, and once you get out of your teens, most women CRINGE at the bouquet toss. I feel like it ostracizes your female friends- HATE it!

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’d bet my last silver dollar that nobody will notice if you don’t do it. Also I’m not a fan of the garter toss personally, I find it a bit creepy lol. Do whatever you want, and whatever will make you happy.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are doing both but we are getting every girl up for the bouquet and every guy for the garter toss (FI is getting it off no way am I having anyone else near my legs haha).Most of our  guests are couples except about 5 so we don’t wanna make them stand out…

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I echo PPs and say people wont miss it.  The gartner toss isn’t even done in the UK, never heard of it before the bee.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    we’re doing the bouquet toss.. i think (battling between that and a bouquet presentation).. no garter toss tho.. i think it’s a lil too much to be doing in that setting

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’re doing it at FI’s insistence. I’m not happy about it, but he’s been absolutely adamant that he wants it, because “it’s not a wedding without it!” (if I never hear that phrase again it will be too soon).

    Honestly, I think people will be grateful if you skip it. I like the anniversary dance idea, I always think they’re cute, and they don’t embarass people.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’re not doing it. Most of our friends are all married/engaged. I actually really dislike kids participating in the toss. I have nothing against the toss, I think it’s supposed to be fun/lighthearted for the singles to “see who is getting married next”. I just think it is silly for kids to participate in that, and for that reason I wouldn’t spend the money on it when you already decided you didn’t want to do it.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am doing the longest couple dance!

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I have actually never seen someone do a garter or bouquet toss in real life!!! Maybe at least where I’m from they just aren’t in fashion anymore?  I know I won’t be doing one–which made Future Mother-In-Law sad (creepily, she was super excited for the garter part–gross!)

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wish there was an “other” option, because I really want to do the bouquet toss, but not the garter. Maybe he’ll have a “groomal” bouquet..

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