Post # 1
My fiance and I were discussing the option of a dollar dance yesterday. I have never really liked the idea of it. I feel like we are already asking people to travel and buy us gifts. Giving us money for a dance seems a little overkill right?
He did bring up a good point about doing the dollar dance. Money for a honeymoon! Right now we are putting everything in to the wedding and saving for a home. We arent sure we wil have much for a honeymoon and the extra money we are given could serve as our spending money during our trip.
What are your thoughts? Do you like the dollar dance idea or no?
Post # 3
I’ve only seen the dollar dance twice – weddings for my SILs from TX. I’ve never seen it up here in the north east, so I think its a little grabby. But if it’s normal in your circle and where you’re from, go for it. I know SIL made out pretty good to the tune of a few hundred!
Post # 4
It depends on your culture. If the people in your family expect it, then go for it if you want to but if they have never heard of a dollar dance before, it won’t go over well.
Post # 5
I was very very anti dollar dance for a long time.
I just recently was the wedding planner for a wedding and they did a dollar dance…i have to say
1. they made a butt load of money
2. the people who gave money looked like they were having a blast
3. the people who didnt give money looked akward and slightly annoyed/disgusted
4. It went on for way way to long
Basically..i think it depends on who the crowd is. In your family and friends circle, do they have dollar dances? If not, I wouldnt recommend it…you are right…most guest feel they have brought a gift, travelled and spent tons of money..why should they feel guilt tripped into spending more.
Post # 6
I had never even heard of a dollar dance until my cousin’s wedding this summer. I was confused… and I wasn’t the only guest that wasn’t quite sure what was going on. There were people that “got it” though, because the bride was dancing for quite some time. I’m guessing it was fairly lucrative for her. It was kind of weird from a guest perspective though. We got kicked off the dance floor for the dollar dance and we had to wait around while it commenced. Many guests, myself included, got bored because it went on for so long and left the dance area. If you decide to do it, try to keep the dances short!
Post # 7
I agree with the above posters, if it is a norm in your circle go ahead.
I had never heard of it till Future Sister-In-Law did it, I personally was not keen on the idea.. though I also don’t like dancing lol
Post # 8
It common round my parts. My Fiance friends got $2500!! do it closer to the end of the night when everyone is drunk and more genorous ( we gave them $200! tipsy much!) j/k about waiting til everyone is drunk…kinda.
Post # 9
I have been to weddings where they do it and been to them where they don’t. I have always found it to be a little tacky but no one seems too taken aback by it. I think I will talk to my parents about it and see what they think. I know that my future in laws like it becuase they get to spend a little time with the bride and groom and usually throw in another $20 each.
I dont really want to do it but the next day I will have more money and I doubt anyone will be talking about the dollar dance. 🙂
Post # 10
@Angelz_love: Sounds like a good idea to me! Haha!
Post # 11
I agree with waiting on the drinking…esp if you’re having an open bar.
but seriously I don’t personally care for the idea of them nice dress, drunk people poking pins at me??? no thanks.
Post # 12
Ugh… It’s the norm here and I HATE them. It wasn’t even a consideration for us.
Post # 13
@SaraP2012: I’ve only known dollar/money dance on certain cultures. If it’s a norm for your family and/or culture, then sure why not.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I’ve been to a ton of weddings (upside of being the daughter of an officiant), and I’ve only ever seen one dollar dance. If that’s your style, I say go for it. But I personally wouldn’t do it at my own wedding.
In terms of money for the honeymoon, take all the cards with you! You’ll probably have plenty of cash to use for fun things on your honeymoon.
Post # 15
I agree with some other posters that I wouldn’t do it at my wedding. I have only seen it at one wedding, and it seemed awkward. Most people were just looking on. Also I think it looks grabby, BUT there are some circles that consider it to be totally normal, so it just depends on what your guests are used to.
Post # 16
Yeah, this is a totally cultural thing and if it’d done out of place then it WILL look awkward, grabby and indecent, but here in western PA it seems if one isn’t done by the bride, some guest will try to start one…
I had one and people had an absolute blast. The DJ kept it short (I was getting dizzy) and we made alot of money. Keep in mind your guests and try to gauge if they’d love it or stand around and not know what to do.