(Closed) To Dollar Dance or Not To Dollar Dance

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
12265 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve only seen the dollar dance twice – weddings for my SILs from TX.  I’ve never seen it up here in the north east, so I think its a little grabby.  But if it’s normal in your circle and where you’re from, go for it.  I know SIL made out pretty good to the tune of a few hundred! 

Post # 4
8943 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It depends on your culture.  If the people in your family expect it, then go for it if you want to but if they have never heard of a dollar dance before, it won’t go over well.

Post # 5
1799 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was very very anti dollar dance for a long time.


I just recently was the wedding planner for a wedding and they did a dollar dance…i have to say


1. they made a butt load of money

2. the people who gave money looked like they were having a blast

3. the people who didnt give money looked akward and slightly annoyed/disgusted

4. It went on for way way to long


Basically..i think it depends on who the crowd is. In your family and friends circle, do they have dollar dances? If not, I wouldnt recommend it…you are right…most guest feel they have brought a gift, travelled and spent tons of money..why should they feel guilt tripped into spending more.

Post # 6
3354 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 1900

I had never even heard of a dollar dance until my cousin’s wedding this summer.  I was confused… and I wasn’t the only guest that wasn’t quite sure what was going on.  There were people that “got it” though, because the bride was dancing for quite some time. I’m guessing it was fairly lucrative for her.  It was kind of weird from a guest perspective though.  We got kicked off the dance floor for the dollar dance and we had to wait around while it commenced.  Many guests, myself included, got bored because it went on for so long and left the dance area.  If you decide to do it, try to keep the dances short!

Post # 7
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the above posters, if it is a norm in your circle go ahead.

I had never heard of it till Future Sister-In-Law did it, I personally was not keen on the idea.. though I also don’t like dancing lol

Post # 8
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It common round my parts. My Fiance friends got $2500!! do it closer to the end of the night when everyone is drunk and more genorous ( we gave them $200! tipsy much!) j/k about waiting til everyone is drunk…kinda.

Post # 11
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with waiting on the drinking…esp if you’re having an open bar.


but seriously I don’t personally care for the idea of them nice dress, drunk people poking pins at me??? no thanks.

Post # 12
4437 posts
Honey bee

Ugh… It’s the norm here and I HATE them. It wasn’t even a consideration for us.

Post # 13
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SaraP2012:  I’ve only known dollar/money dance on certain cultures.  If it’s a norm for your family and/or culture, then sure why not.

Post # 14
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I’ve been to a ton of weddings (upside of being the daughter of an officiant), and I’ve only ever seen one dollar dance. If that’s your style, I say go for it. But I personally wouldn’t do it at my own wedding.

In terms of money for the honeymoon, take all the cards with you! You’ll probably have plenty of cash to use for fun things on your honeymoon. 

Post # 15
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with some other posters that I wouldn’t do it at my wedding.  I have only seen it at one wedding, and it seemed awkward.  Most people were just looking on.  Also I think it looks grabby, BUT there are some circles that consider it to be totally normal, so it just depends on what your guests are used to. 

Post # 16
2294 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah, this is a totally cultural thing and if it’d done out of place then it WILL look awkward, grabby and indecent, but here in western PA it seems if one isn’t done by the bride, some guest will try to start one…

I had one and people had an absolute blast. The DJ kept it short (I was getting dizzy) and we made alot of money. Keep in mind your guests and try to gauge if they’d love it or stand around and not know what to do.

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