- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Sorry in advance for the long post…
So hubby and I met with a doula last night, she was reccommended to me as she just participated in a birth for a friend of ours on Nov 1st and everything went swimmingly. Reason why we are looking into a doula is that I suffer from severe anxiety when it comes to needles and medium anxiety when it comes to unknown medical jargin (and by jargin i mean, terms, procedures and doctors maybe not explaining everything and giving us every option). Hubby and I are looking to write a birth plan/preferences and before i get to much slack on this i would like to post that i know it could go completely askew but i think itll help give me knowledge before i go into labor, itll act as a comfort and help keep us on track for a birth we will be happy about even if it ends in c-section or isnt perfect.
Mr Pappy loves the idea of hiring a doula and I think that its a great investment due to the fact that she has had great success and this is an experiance of a lifetime and we want it to be as relaxed as possible. During our meeting last night she gave us so much info and brought us a whole bunch of literature which is greatly appreciated. Some of the included items were; benefits of a doula to the father, a multpile choice (very elaborate) birth plan, info on the different stages of labor, dealing with positioning, dealing with stress/anxiety and so much more… I cam out of that appointment pretty satisfied.
Heres my dilemma, I dont feel like I would need her whole experiance. She does 2-3 prenatal visits, assistance with writing the birth plan, securing a backup doula, 1-2 post partum visit, Labor support, going to L&D classes with you and she also said she used to be a photographer and would take photos of special moments if shes available to (this is just a bonus).
-Dealing with Anxiety and stress (Number one reason to hire her)
-Assistance with getting as close to the experiance as possible
-She assists with positioning, easing pain and assists with fluff stuff (like grabbing coffee or food for the father, massage therapy and aromatherapy)
-The potential for photography
-Great references that i know personally
-Her knowledge and the fact that she works for me not the hospital
-Cost is $850… We have the money, but i havent even commited to her and i’m having buyers remorse already… we have a good amount in savings but we have other costs such as debt, other baby related costs and living costs… paying for this doula will not break us at all but itll set us back on our savings account by a couple months. However… Hubby is working 2 jobs untill the baby is born to help out.
-Having too many people in the room during L&D… Hubby, my mother and the doula.
-The fear that if i end up having a “Easy” experiance that I would have just possibly wasted money.
-I will have my husband and my mom in the room for sure… Thinking that that should be enough (why would I need more help… my mom abviously gave birth to me)
Help Bees! Obviously torn on making this decision…
Mr Pappy brough up a good point and I hate it when hes right… lol… but he said that “this is a once in a lifetime experiance, even if we have more babys they are all important… our biggest goal is to get our baby out as safely as possible but to get as relaxing and stressfree experiance as possible is priceless”. I feel hes right… we hired a really expensive wedding photographer so that we could perfectly capture the moment of our wedding so we have the best memories and why wouldnt we put that kind of money into our family. etc etc.
Please help with your input; Wether you had a doula, didnt have one, wish you did, or anything else. HELP! lol
- This topic was modified 3 years ago by Pappy8.