Post # 1
To each their own. I find myself browsing here and looking at posts, thinking how different all of us are. Though I would never say to another bride, but to fiance, I say what I feel. Sometimes things to me are not so nice and pretty, and others are gushing over it. I know what I have chosen for a dress might be ugly to another, and I love my ring, but another might crinkle their nose. It’s nice that all are so unique. Anybody else do that?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
@techheather: I often go “yikes” when I see dresses/etc on here, but it’s because I’m vain and am always thinking about myself! lol My immediate reaction is always thinking about a dress for myself, but then once I get past that, I can usually appreciate that something works well for another girl. But yes, it’s always “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all” – so I guess that’s why everyone usually gushes on threads, The naysayers are saying nothing at all. =P
Post # 4
I definitely see things or hear ideas on WB that are not my taste, but I know that others probably feel that way about my choices. I have crinkled my nose quite a few times, hah. To each their own, is right.
Post # 5
Yep, it’s bound to happen. If something isn’t my taste I just don’t comment. I don’t want to say anything mean and be a big jerk, but I also don’t want to lie. So I just stay out of it and keep my opinions to myself.
Post # 6
Yes, it happens to everyone.
I don’t post in threads where I don’t have anything nice to say though.
EDIT : Sometimes, if the picture that’s posted is awful, like really awful [let’s say a bride went for her makeup trial, and it turned out AWFUL], I might give a few ways to improve.
I really TRY not to be nasty or snarky, but I’d rather let a bride know that her makeup is too dark/light/awful, whatever the case may be. I would like someone to let me know so I didn’t look like a fool in my pictures!
Post # 7
Sometimes I would think that people on here would like to see some honesty.
Sure, we’ve all seen stuff on here that isn’t our taste, but we’ve also all seen stuff on here that is just plain UGLY. And looks completely ridiculous. Yet we can’t say as such or a lovely moderator will promptly write me up for being snarky.
Which is really too bad– because if you are honestly looking for opinions on something, you may want to hear the truth and spare yourself embarassment on the big day, ya know?
Post # 8
@jenilynevette: I agree, if I think someone’s dress is ugly, I just move along
Post # 9
For sure we are all different.
But for the most part… I genuinely like what others have chosen FOR THEMSELVES… be it a Dress, a Ring, their Colours, Decor etc.
I can only have one ERing, one Dress and ONE DAY… so it is ok to LOVE lots of other’s choices
And I let folks know that I like their selections… if I do
To be honest, it is really rare that I see something truly jarring… from a style point of view… but then I just chalk it up to the fact that that Bee must be very much an individualist and unique in their tastes / fashion sense etc.
Lol, now if we want to discuss Etiquette… that is a whole other ball of wax.
Never will understand the gals who post on the ETIQUETTE BOARD for help / advice, and don’t like the truthful replies they get (Etiquette being not a “style” but actually a hard and fast rule that is in place for a reason… you word things this way, so as to get this result etc)
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
@JaneyDcat: I agree. Sometimes people are fishing for compliments, but other times they are just looking for honest opinions. I try to give constructive criticism when I can, but if its about a dress that has already been purchased I just stay out of it. If its already been bought I would feel bad making the person doubt their decision.
Post # 12
I generally don’t comment if it’s something I personally don’t like but the bride loves. For example, when someone is showing off their ring, I would never dream of posting anything other than, “Great!” However, if a bride is asking for honest critique, like “What would you change about x?”, then I would give my opinion honestly and politely. I occasionally preface it by saying “It’s not my style, however, I like blank but don’t care for blank because of blank.”
Post # 13
You bring forward a great point. I just love how different our tastes are on these threads. Keeps life interesting! By spending time on the Bee, I have seen my tastes grow and diversify, by being exposed to so many different styles. There isn’t much I don’t like when it comes to rings…I appreciate them for their unique traits each time. Of course I have my preferences, and I’m glad I chose my own ring to incorporate all my favorite elements in my ring.
I completely respect and appreciate different tastes and opinions. 😉