Post # 1
I am getting married now in a little over four and a half months and I’m seriously considering elopement. Fiance says he doesn’t care what we do as long as the end result is he gets to spend the rest of his life with me.
I’ve never considered myself a cheap person, but all of this wedding stuff makes me feel like I am. I just keep thinking is one day really worth all of this money? It’s not even that we can’t afford it. I just can’t help thinking that this money would be better spent on something else or better saved.
However, I don’t want to do anything that either of us would regret. Our families are onboard and supportive of whatever we decide to do and Fiance seems content to back me up on whatever it is I want to do.
So tell me bees, is one day really worth all the money, effort, and time? Or should I be looking up places to elope to..
Post # 3
Do you have a lot of money invested in the upcoming wedding? If not, and your families are supportive, I say, do it! Honestly, if I hadn’t already put a bunch of money towards our upcoming wedding, I would have just eloped and done a nice dinner with close family to celebrate. On the other hand, I do think that one day is worth the money because it is a celebration of your love, in a big way! With many memories and emotions attached to it.
Post # 4
@carebee: So I have been married twice now. Both times were elopements – well not running off without people knowing – people knew ahead of time and it was planned.
I was knee deep in planning a wedding for my second – with guests and all that jazz. I thought I had to do the opposite of my first marriage. I kind of felt like I was missing out. It was really just a headache! I did not like forking over tons of money for people who didn’t really care. I’d rather spend in on ourselves. I have less than enthusiastic family members, so they really did not mind if I eloped again. I think I did them a favor. We cancelled it all four months before the guest wedding and got our money back (more so because my dad was dying too, but it’s what got us to cancel in the end).
I think taking a romantic vacation just the two of you and getting married on that trip (aka honeymoon) is really a wonderful way to go. That’s what we did. H’s parents were there for the wedding though as our witnesses. Hire a good photographer!
Post # 5
All my life I dreamed of an amazing wedding surrounded by family and friends. Now that Fiance and I are engaged, I’ve considered elopement, too. At the end of the day, you’ll be married: traditional or elopement style. I don’t think you could regret either decision since you’ll be spending the rest of your life with the person of your dreams. I suggest you weigh the pros and cons. For example, do you have a lot of money invested in the wedding already? Do you really care about having people there? Etc.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@carebee: Elope somewhere romantic or historical. So much less stressful than planning a wedding. FH has no idea yet how stressful a wedding is. Thankfully I know I can rely on him for planning things as we get closer to the big day. Especially because I would much rather have saved the $5K and eloped.
Post # 7
my family would be absolutely furious if Fiance and i eloped. that’s the ONLY thing keeping us from eloping. the wedding, even though it’s over 500 days away, is stressing me out. i don’t even know if i want the big wedding anymore. i’d much rather have something smaller, or elope.
Post # 8
I say go for it!! My wedding has been nothing but drama so far and costing an arm and a leg. If I had to do it over again, I would vote for eloping!
Post # 9
Thankfully, we don’t have a lot of money invested in the wedding yet.
I seem to go back and forth on eloping. I think it is what I would like to do, but I’m worried that it isn’t what Fiance would really like or that our families really wouldn’t be okay with our decision. Honestly, I’m probably over thinking things because as you lovely bees have pointed out the end result will be the same and the marriage is what I want more than anything besides.
I think it’s hard too because I always imagined myself having a wedding and being surrounded by friends and family and I like the actual idea of a wedding, but now that I’m actually engaged the idea of spending so much money and all the work I would have to do is freaking me out.
Post # 10
When we were planning our big wedding we just said “eff it” and decided to elope. For the 1/3 the price of one night of partying, we get a one month trip around Europe and an intimate wedding in Paris. Plus we planned/booked it all in about 2 weeks, non-stressed bride here!
We did celebrate with our friends and family here, though, since we had a huge engagement party. It wasn’t a wedding but we still had a blast with everyone!