(Closed) To Elope Or Not To Elope..

posted 7 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do you have a lot of money invested in the upcoming wedding? If not, and your families are supportive, I say, do it! Honestly, if I hadn’t already put a bunch of money towards our upcoming wedding, I would have just eloped and done a nice dinner with close family to celebrate. On the other hand, I do think that one day is worth the money because it is a celebration of your love, in a big way! With many memories and emotions attached to it. 

Post # 4
6116 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@carebee:  So I have been married twice now.  Both times were elopements – well not running off without people knowing – people knew ahead of time and it was planned. 


I was knee deep in planning a wedding for my second – with guests and all that jazz.  I thought I had to do the opposite of my first marriage.  I kind of felt like I was missing out.  It was really just a headache!  I did not like forking over tons of money for people who didn’t really care.  I’d rather spend in on ourselves.  I have less than enthusiastic family members, so they really did not mind if I eloped again.  I think I did them a favor.  We cancelled it all four months before the guest wedding and got our money back (more so because my dad was dying too, but it’s what got us to cancel in the end).


I think taking a romantic vacation just the two of you and getting married on that trip (aka honeymoon) is really a wonderful way to go.  That’s what we did.  H’s parents were there for the wedding though as our witnesses.  Hire a good photographer!


Post # 5
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

All my life I dreamed of an amazing wedding surrounded by family and friends. Now that Fiance and I are engaged, I’ve considered elopement, too. At the end of the day, you’ll be married: traditional or elopement style. I don’t think you could regret either decision since you’ll be spending the rest of your life with the person of your dreams. I suggest you weigh the pros and cons. For example, do you have a lot of money invested in the wedding already? Do you really care about having people there? Etc. 

Post # 6
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@carebee:  Elope somewhere romantic or historical.  So much less stressful than planning a wedding.  FH has no idea yet how stressful a wedding is.  Thankfully I know I can rely on him for planning things as we get closer to the big day.  Especially because I would much rather have saved the $5K and eloped.


Post # 7
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

my family would be absolutely furious if Fiance and i eloped. that’s the ONLY thing keeping us from eloping. the wedding, even though it’s over 500 days away, is stressing me out. i don’t even know if i want the big wedding anymore. i’d much rather have something smaller, or elope.

Post # 8
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say go for it!! My wedding has been nothing but drama so far and costing an arm and a leg. If I had to do it over again, I would vote for eloping!

Post # 10
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When we were planning our big wedding we just said “eff it” and decided to elope.  For the 1/3 the price of one night of partying, we get a one month trip around Europe and an intimate wedding in Paris. Plus we planned/booked it all in about 2 weeks, non-stressed bride here!

We did celebrate with our friends and family here, though, since we had a huge engagement party.  It wasn’t a wedding but we still had a blast with everyone!

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