- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
FH and i have been together for almost 7 years solid. No breaks. I just got out of graduate school and FH and I announced our intent to marry next year. At the time we announced our plans I still didn’t have my engagment ring, but that didn’t deter us from trying to give the family some time to plan. Future Sister-In-Law makes a snarky comment about how we’re rushing into things. Rewind two months later Future Sister-In-Law (who is four years younger) gets engaged to a guy she’s been off and on with for about three years. (A couple weeks later I got my ring) Future Sister-In-Law then proceeds to wait until our colors, venue, date are picked to suddenly announce that she’s getting married two months before our date. I can’t help but feel that she deliberately put her wedding before ours simply because she got her ring first. It’s childish, I know, but it’s so her. I’m bothered because FH’s family will have to pick and choose between weddings.
At this point FH and i have encountered so much negativity from both sides of our family regarding our wedding that I’m ready to scrap all the plans and me and FH just elope. Examples of negativity- My family: why bother weddings are too expensive (mind you my sis had a lavish destination wedding), you’re to fat to wear this dress or that (mind you I haven’t even stepped foot in a bridal store yet or expressed any indication as to the dress I want), it goes on….His family: Future Sister-In-Law got her ring first,..
The problem is that I know FH doesn’t really want to elope. He wants an ‘ideal’ wedding. Me on the other hand can care less about breaking my neck and bank to entertain these people (both sides). I don’t want FH to resent me forever, so I’m not sure what I should do.