(Closed) To Engaged Bees from Married Bees, With Love

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 4
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

None of those little details will matter.  NONE of them. What will matter is how you behave and treat people during the planning process.  People will annoy you to the high heavens.  They just don’t get it.  Try to keep your cool.  Everything really does work out in the end.

Post # 5
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Some things that seem SO F-ING IMPORTANT during planning will turn out to be so unimportant. Your guests could not care less if your linens and napkins are the perfect shade to match the pocket squares in your groomsmen’s suits (really, I feel like I saw this vent on a thread here somewhere last year!) so quit stressing out about it!

Post # 6
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Get a month of planner. I thought I had everything under control, especially since I had a coordinator at my venue– Wrong! I really needed someone on my side, to advocate for me.

You are truly the only person who will notice the details. Everyone else just sees a happy bride and groom. At the end of the day, that’s all matters.

Post # 7
16214 posts
Honey Beekeeper

The things I remember most about the day were the people who were with me and the way I felt. Most of the details that I poured over for hours while planning, I didn’t even notice on the day of. Seriously. I really wish I would have known that before the wedding.

Post # 9
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wish I had known that everything would turn out to be perfect and stressing about it was a waste of energy. I worried too much leading up to the wedding and I wish I had just relaxed, had fun, and enjoyed the process more.

Post # 10
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@NJmeetsBX:  +1

@misspeanut:  +1

Let go of the details. Don’t start any new DIY the week of. JUST BE HAPPY! It’s your day! It and you will be beautiful no matter what happens because you are marrying the love of your life!

Post # 12
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@NJmeetsBX:  This!!


The best thing that people told me after the wedding was that they loved how happy we looked together and with each other.  No one remembered the decorations or the food as much as they remembered that!

Post # 13
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I am planning our ceremony soon and I am noticing as we get closer and closer that so many things I thought mattered just don’t. Is there a bride? groom? rings? good food? winner. thats all you need. 

Post # 14
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

The best advice that I received and found to be true was: it’s all worth it, the crazy planning and diy-ing and wanting everything to be perfect, as long as you can take a deep breath the day of your wedding and let it all go, just let the day be and enjoy yourself.

I did this and it was the best advice to follow, the day before my wedding I was going crazy with my Maid/Matron of Honor making the boutonnieres and bouquets, figuring out how the groomsmen were getting to the ceremony site, and worrying about the sound equipment we had borrowed (I found planning to be fun, exciting, and stressful). The day of the wedding I woke up, took a deep breath and let it all go. Did things go wrong? Of course! At the end of the day did we have an amazing, beautiful, love-filled, fun, and happy wedding day? YES! We planned our day to be awesome, after all it was the day we were making a life-long commitment to each other and I think it deserved a lot of thought, but the day-of I just cared about being married.

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