(Closed) To Engagement Party…or not?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll:
    Yes and my/our parents hosted : (10 votes)
    30 %
    Yes and we hosted : (6 votes)
    18 %
    Yes and someone other than options 1 and 2 hosted : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No : (16 votes)
    48 %
    Other - see below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    243 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We are almost the same as for date-wise. Engaged in November and getting married in September. I thought we had missed the engagement party window.. thought it would be too late. BUT his dad just got back from overseas so really that would be a good excuse to have waited….

     

    I think it’s okay to host your own! Or, do you have any bridesmaids/groomsmen that would be willing to host it? Maybe you could hint around to them that you’d really like to have an engagement party, maybe even ask their advice if you think it’s okay to throw your own. They’ll either tell you yes it’s fine or they might offer to help throw you one 🙂

    And if you have the money and you “really, really” want one, then go for it! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We hosted our own.  It was very low-key, just people coming over to our house for cocktails.  We informally spread the word not to bring gifts, since we were hosting it ourselves.  We just wanted to celebrate with friends.  It worked out well, so I think it would be fine for you to do your own.  But we didn’t do a lot of things that I’ve seen at other e-parties because we hosted.  We didn’t have formal invites or a cake with our names on it or anything.  I figured a cake would be weird since we were the hosts.  You know?

    Post # 6
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think you should go for it!  I really wanted one – but I ended up feeling sheepish about hosting my own.  In retrospect, I really wish I would have.. it would have been a great way to celebrate and start introducing people to each other (people who will see each other throught the course of our engagement…)

    Post # 7
    Member
    6247 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I think it’s fine to host your own if you really want an engagement party.  But is it really necessary?  If you budget out all your wedding costs you might realize that you want to spend the money elsewhere, say towards the DJ or honeymoon.  Just a thought.  But hey, if you want an engagement party then by all means, have yourself an engagement party!  =)

    Post # 8
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @KatyLovesJoey:  I think either way, it’s okay to have an engagement party, whether you host or your parents.  Our engagement party was hosted by my FI’s parents and my parents helped out with the food costs.

    Post # 9
    Member
    105 posts
    Blushing bee

    When i get engaged if someone doesnt host one for me I will for sure host my own. Maybe have one of the bridesmaids do the cake so its not like your congratulating yourself you know.

    Post # 10
    Member
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Don’t lose site about what this is about. Etiquette is fine but don’t get swept away in it. This isn’t 1940. : )

    My fiancé & I are planning our own engagment party. We have both been married before so we are older and more independent finacially. 

    The party is simply a way to celebrate  getting engaged with those close to you. If you want to have one , have one. 

    Great saying…. Those who mind don’t matter.  Those who matter don’t mind.

    Focus on celebrating this great moment of your life & do what makes you happy as long as you aren’t hurting anyone you are good!!  : ) 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Hi there!  I feel your pain – my FH and I are paying for the wedding on our own.  We did have an engagement party, but only for our wedding party and their dates.  There were about 20 people there total.  We went to a really fun, BYOB sushi place and we paid a total of approximately $500.00.  So nothing too expensive and it was a lot of fun!  You could even have a pitch in dinner or something like that at your house/apt to bring down costs.

    Post # 13
    Member
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we sort of hosted our own party. The Future Mother-In-Law basically made us have one and said she would help us pay for it. She basically just got us the alcohol. At the end with gifts in presents the engagement party paid for itself. You can do semi casual one. My one friend had a semi formal one at her backyard. Her mom and dad cooked the food on the grill and it was a great time!

    Post # 13
    Member
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we sort of hosted our own party. The Future Mother-In-Law basically made us have one and said she would help us pay for it. She basically just got us the alcohol. At the end with gifts in presents the engagement party paid for itself. You can do semi casual one. My one friend had a semi formal one at her backyard. Her mom and dad cooked the food on the grill and it was a great time!

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    11166 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We hosted our own engagement party but it turned out to be more of dinner and game night, which was just fine for us. We had a great time and it wasn’t expensive at all.

    If you want to save you could even have a potluck type party. While it isn’t as formal I always love trying new foods.

    Post # 15
    Member
    758 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’re hosting our own, as well, this coming Saturday.  We’re poor college/recently graduated college students, but we’re having a verrry casual, potluck lunch.  I work at a hotel, so I can use the ballroom for free.  That combined with not having to foot out for all the food is the only way we’d be able to have it.  Future Mother-In-Law has been very helpful and she’s helping to make a lot of the food.  It can be done cheaply, like said before, it’s just a reason to celebrate the step that you’re taking with your Fiance, whatever with etiquette 🙂

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