(Closed) To fat for your dress

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I had a court wedding but I still wanted to loose weight for my wedding- I didn’t. Like you I procrastinated (I have lots of time), and made excuses and although my dress fit it was very snug and I felt uncomfortable. I finally motivated myself to lose weight mainly by changing my eating habits little to no junk food (except for my designated cheat days), lots of water and just finding ways to keep active. I regret not losing weight earlier but it’s easier once you get started and see the results and you know it’s worth it. It’s better to get started earlier so by then you’ll make a habit out if eating better/ being more active and won’t be stressed about wedding planning and not fitting into your dress. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Mistress_K:  I hear ya! It’s winter where I am too (are you in Aus also?) and all I want to do is curl up on the couch and eat comfort foods!

I went through that stage of feeling really down about it for quite some time (literally crying to my mum on the phone about it..) I was trying so hard and getting no where which would then turn in to me feeling really crap, saying ‘screw it then’ and eating to make myself feel better! It’s an evil cycle!

And don’t worry i’m all too familiar with the excuses haha you’re not the only one! Our office supplies free biscuits, chips, soft drink etc. and it’s all just a few metres away! So hard to resist! and at the end of the day i’m so exhausted from working full time and studying that exercise is that last thing I want to do with my free time! You can actually see some pretty good results from healthy eating alone but of course exercise is important not just for weight loss but overall health! I will just always struggle with it because i’m never going to be one of those people that loves a work out!

You’re not alone believe me, but we can do this! I’ve got about 10kg to go and I just try and focus on how great I want to feel and look on our wedding day! I know i’ll really regret it if I don’t. To me it’s not so much about trying to look like a super model, I just want to feel beautiful!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Mistress_K:  PS if it helps, i’ve found it easiest to try and stick to being super healthy during the week but allowing myself a ‘free day’ on Friday where I can indulge and not spend 99% of my day worrying about weight and calories etc etc!

Weekends I try to stick to being as healthy as I can again but I cut myself some slack if we have a dinner or something on!

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I’ve got braces too and I hear ya about the limitations food wise. Have you thought about having a protein shake for breakfast. One of my favourite post ortho appt dinners is grilled white fish with a parsnip and carrot mash or making hearty soups with heaps of vegetables. For snacks, Chobani yoghurt packs a punch of protein and can be quite filling with some fresh fruit. Cucumber and baby tomatoes are also great snacking foods with some hummus if you like dips. For me meal planning on Sunday is an absolute must and if I don’t set out what I’m going to eat for the week and get some groceries I always end up buying unhealthy easy options.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius

Mistress_K:  I feel your pain, I ordered my dress in January for my November wedding, we only got enagaged in October. I ordered the right size dress with the thinking that it can be taken in, but I didn’t want to risk not being able to for one reason or another and my dress/day being ruined because I couldn’t fit into it or was uncomfortable. 

My dress came in last week and I only really started my weight loss plan a few weeks back (I had some stress with my job, starting a new job, an injury and being in the wrong head space suffering from a bit of anxiety and depression) and I started to panic and think ‘if only I had started this when I was meant to’. 

All you can do right now is start, don’t go absolutly crazy and crash diet or kill yourself in the gym, but start getting active, join the gym if you haven’t already or join some local classes, if that’s not your thing go for walks, swimming or if a friend/partner wants to look into some other sports and activities you can do together. Schedual it in, it may not always work out due to work commitments, holidays, special occasions etc but if 90% of the time you can stick to the same days and times it will help so much, it becomes something that you just do. I set my alarm early every Monday, Wednesday and Friday and get everything ready the night before, get up and go, it’s just habit. With the diet, everyone is different and different things work for different people so you have to see what feels right for you, for me I am doing the 5:2 diet and clean eating as much as I can on the non-fasting days (500cals fasting and around 1400 non fasting). It’s tough but I feel so much better in general, not bloated or lathargic, I have dropped 6lbs in 2 weeks and am feeling great. Now I am not so terrified to go see my dress again for the fear it won’t fit, or that I promised myself the last time I tried it on it would be too big, not tighter!

One massive help for me is to take pictures, these are private and soley just for me. It can be so disheartening to step on the scales and not see what you want, and when you are starting to incorporate more excercise the muscle gain can skew things and squash your motivation, by measuring or taking pictures you can easliy see your progress and this keeps you going. 

Remember, motivation comes from doing. The first step is the hardest, the rest is easy x

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Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

I had a horror moment shortly after getting engaged. I came across some wedding photos of an acquaintance. We had know  each other when young and…the comparison was not flattering, white is not kind.

So I went into a massive selfhatred spiral, imagining myself, looking like a beached whale on my wedding day… This was very silly of me, I am anxious and get depressed and have some obsessional traits that make it hard for me to be kind to myself. 

My partner had a very serious chat with me along the lines of “you don’t need to be the most beautiful you’ve ever been on your wedding day, but hopefully you’ll be the most happy”. I bought a dress that I can fit into now, I hope to slim down somewhat in the meantime (trying to get my bmi < 25 in general), but I am getting married to marry my partner and formalise our new family, it’s not really about how you look, that obsession feeds a beauty pagentesque industry that isn’t about love or commitment or respect…

To summarise,  please don’t beat yourself up.You don’t need to be skinny to be married. I am sorry that you felt you should order a dress two sizes smaller than you are. It is very likely achievable.  Remember that slow and steady is way more likely to last, and serious corsetry can take your waist down 2 inches ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

Mistress_K:  I cannot help you, unfortunately, but I can sympathize with you. I ordered my dress back in January and since then started a medication that makes you gain weight (it increases your appetite and because of it making you over-heat and another one that I’m on increases my sweating I am unable to do a good workout – so I’m trying to just take in more veggies and fruit for snacks if the feeling doesn’t go away after a while and walk to/from work each day which is 2km each way and takes 35 minutes). I have actually increased in weight while trying to lose weight, so I am absolutely terrified to try on my dress once it comes in. (I drink alcohol maybe once per month and rarely have caffeine)

If your dress is truly that big of a problem I might suggest changing the back to a corset back, which allows for more leverage … I’m sure that you will look beautiful on your day ๐Ÿ™‚

Small changes is what helps – smaller portion sizes on smaller plates. Get your Fiance on board if he lives with you by not having any pop in the house (no temptation is always a really good thing – if it is not there you cannot miss it!). Go for a half hour brisk walk after dinner, if possible, each day with your Fiance (it’s something nice to do together).

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

You’ve got time – try MyFitnessPal, I lost 10kg in six months without giving up chocolate, cheesecake or cider.  It’s all about fitting what you eat into calorie goals; you do have to weigh EVERYTHING you eat but the food database is awesome and the social networking factor means you get great support.  The massive shock for me was portion sizes – I thought I was eating one serving of cereal but when I weighed it I realized it was closer to two.  I know a heap of others MFP worked for too. Good luck!

Post # 24
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Worker bee

Just a quick tip to get you started: drink only water. I had a friend who stopped drinking soft drinks (without making any other changes to diet or exercise routine) and he lost 50lbs!

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

While food is key to losing weight, I want to mention something not suggested here (all great ideas). If you can’t do a lot of cardio, focus on weight lifting when at the gym. If you join MFP, you’ll see a lot of people suggest lifting heavy because it builds strength and also “shrinks” your size. I think you’re right to start thinking now about starting, but don’t just think, actually start. There will literally always be excuses and social events to throw you off track. You need to commit or nothing will happen, so just take a step and keep going. You can do this, and don’t let others drag you back. This should be about your health, not just the wedding dress or it will be too easy to get caught up in cravings (not hunger) and think “I can start again tomorrow.” This is a lifestyle change and it’s for a healthy future.

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My weight has been all over the place… I had my dress fitted when I was quite slim, and two weeks later then putting it on was quite a challenge…

Luckily, I had invested in a steel boned burlesque dancer’s waist training corset previously. A few moments with that sucker, and the dress went right on!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Mistress_K:  Make your weight about the dress. Do you and Fiance talk openly about this stuff? Just be honest with him. You’re losing the weight to fit into the dress you wanted so badly, not for any other reason. Well maybe that’s a lie. But if you’re okay with white lies you could try it. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

If you absolutely need to lose weight to fit into your dress but you feel like you’ll have to be unrealistically restrictive in order to achieve that weight and maintain it, then I’d calculate how long it’ll take you to lose that amount (if you’re like the rest of us women, you’ve probably dieted a dozen times before and know your body well) and not start until that close to the wedding. So if it’ll take 6 months to lose the weight, don’t start until 6 months before the wedding. Otherwise, you’ll just make yourself miserable maintaining an unhealthy weight for months before the wedding.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I lost 70lbs in the 2.5 years before our wedding (my weight has always swung, especially dependant on my struggles with depression – as low as 125lbs, as high as 211lbs). Having said that, I intended to lose 5-10lbs in the 7 months between when I found my dress and my wedding date, but only lost 1. Despite living a fairly healthy lifestyle during that time, the stress of wedding planning definitely got to me and the pre-wedding events (engagement party, bachelorette, bridal shower, etc.) made me fall off the diet wagon. My suggestion would be to start working on it now – don’t hope that you can lose the majority of the weight in the year before your wedding because that will be the worst time to put that kind of pressure on yourself.

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