- 1 year ago
- Wedding: May 2017
I have gotten lots of good advice from you ladies during the whole process of my divorce. This is my latest thread prior to this one: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/nasty-divorce-question-can-you-give-me-advice/
Since that thread, things have gotten really, really messy. There were several times of him calling me repetitively, threatening to not give me info on our house selling, threatening to show up at my place of employment, calling me at work, threatening to show up at my house, threatening to break in and steal my dog, etc. He has also been very mean to his attorney. She has told my attorney that he is a hot head, and screams at her over the phone. She (his attorney) said she didn’t want our case to go to trial, because he would end up making her look bad in the courtroom. His attorney finally talked him into signing the marital settlement agreement on Friday, and the two attorneys made the decision to contact the judge and expedite my trial, for my safety. They both have been practicing family law in this area for nearly 20 years, and both of them, say they have never had to do this, and have never dealt with someone like him before.
Our divorce hearing is at 2:30 today. He got pretty mad when he found out the trial is expedited, and started being even more ugly toward his attorney (not sure what all he said to her), and the judge is aware, and has requested more security presence during our case, and an escort to my car. The judge also said if he does anything out of line, he will be arrested.
My attorney has recommended me getting an OP, but some people are trying to talk me out of it. If the OP sticks (not sure if it will, as my county is pretty strict on OPs unless there is proof of physical violence), he will lose his ability to own a gun, and will lose all of his guns. He’s an avid firearm collector, so this will most definitely set him off, and make him jump even further off the deep end. I’m worried that the OP might be the push he needs to do something really stupid, and hurt me or my family. An OP is only a piece of paper, and it’s just really concerning me.
I have an appointment with the local women’s shelter for tomorrow to start the process for an OP, and the hearing for it would be Thursday. If I’m going to cancel, I need to do so today. I hate that I’m considering not protecting myself, for fear that it could escalate things, but I’m just trying to think of all scenarios.
Another moving piece to this puzzle is that we have a pending sale on our house we own together, that he is living in. If I file this OP, he could end up doing something stupid to damage the house, to make the sale fall through. Or he could refuse to let anyone do the repairs to the house, that have to be done before closing, which would have us both in breech of the contract we entered. We would also have to have two separate closings, which makes me nervous because of the way we are splitting up the equity in the house.
Should I wait and see how things go today? Wait until the house sale is over (we close on Sept 20th, so 2.5 weeks)? Do it now? Not file one at all? I am a nervous wreck, and have no idea what is the best way to go about this. I am not looking forward to having to see him in 2 hours.