Post # 1
So my husband and I have our 20 week scan tomorrow and agreed to not find out the sex. At one point a few weeks ago we agreed that we would, but now he is saying he doesn’t want to. Basically, I know if I say I really want to that he would budge, but I’m still undecided – and am thinking because of that I should just wait.
My point of this post is to find out if anyone who found out wished they had waited?
Post # 3
I have never had a baby, but I have never heard anyone who found out the sex regret it. But they wanted to know the whole time, I think you’re on the fence for a reason, and you may regret it in the end! My Future Mother-In-Law was adament about not knowing the sex of her 3 and was super happy that she made that choice, she said it kept her going throughout the pregnancy and when they scream “It’s a ___” it just adds to all of the excitement! It is really making me consider not finding out the sex 🙂 Congratulations on the pregnancy! So exciting 🙂
Post # 4
@krrmee5: Haha I love that you mention the “It’s a ____” – that’s the part that makes me not want to know! I’m leaning more towards not finding out…I do love the anticipation 🙂
Thank you too! 🙂
Post # 5
I think it’s one if the few surprises we can still have in this world if mega fast technology and social media. Like on PP said, my mom didn’t know, by choice, what we were until the doctor said “it’s a ___!” She preferred it that way. However, a few days back there was a good thread about being “Team Green” and gender disappointment. That being said, if you want one gender over the other, you should probably find out now. That way when the baby is born, insteaf of planning for months and months on a baby girl and then being saddened by a son, you can mourn not having the sex you wanted and move on to celebrating your new little one!
Post # 6
I found out with both of my pregnancies. I do really wish I had the stamina to wait though. But I am too impatient.
Post # 7
@MrsSmokey: just do me a favor. Go to the mall… And go to carter’s the childrens place and gap and tell me if you find gender neutral clothes…… Good luck! Imagine your baby shower… And your baby s room ….there is nothing wrong with knowing the sex!!!!just do it
Post # 8
@bbfyso: This. Or ANYWHERE.
We found out this time, and I had a little gender disappointment. I think next time, we will be team green.
Post # 9
@bbfyso: Flipside of this argument:
Newborns only really need a handfull of onsies and a small area to sleep, but they need a LOT of other, expensive things where the gender doesn’t really matter (car seat, monitor, swing, stroller, diapers…etc).
I think that not finding out the gender makes it so people (me included) purchase mostly the necessary items pre-baby and don’t get wrapped up in the “oh my god, that’s so cute, I have to have 200 frilly newborn dresses that my baby will grow out of before she can even wear” phase.
After the baby is born, you will have PLENTY of time to get cute accessories and outfits that are gender specific.
Post # 10
We’re team green. I want the surprise and excitement at delivery with them saying “it’s a ___”. Also, I don’t need to be swamped with tons of blue or pink clothes that I have to put my kid in and find a place to store it. It’s fine with neutral items and people will buy plenty of clothing/get hand-me-downs after the baby is born.
Post # 11
We were team green, and I will be the first to admit that it was a pain when we were shopping for baby stuff. That being said, nothing could beat that moment when the doctor and nurses had my husband announce “It’s a girl!”. Nothing. It was a completely blissful surprise and made waiting SO worth it.
Post # 12
@NaijaPuertoDorian: This! While I wouldn’t find out, that’s because the baby’s sex wouldn’t mean much to me, among other things. If you have a marked preference either way, find out.
Post # 13
I found out! I had to wait 20 weeks to know the baby’s gender, and thats a long time regardless. I just went to a “gender neutral” baby shower, and they got a lot of green stuff, which to me, is boy. She is a week past due, but for their sake I hope its a boy. I wanted a boy and found out I am having a girl and honestly, I am so excited. I vote to find out, I love relating to the little girl in my belly. Calling her by name, and thinking of all the wonderful things we get to do together makes me smile! I think it makes my baby feel more like a baby, and not like a question.. wondering what she will be like. It makes it more real, just my opinion 🙂
Post # 14
We didn’t find out so I can’t answer your question. BUT what we did was get a card where my Darling Husband, our Dirty Delete and I wrote a note with a prediction to the baby. The tech wrote her finding inside the card and sealed it. We will open it after the baby is born and include it in their baby book. Just something fun for later. 😉
Post # 15
I always thought I would want to know. Now that I’m preg, though, I’m reconsidering. I love the idea of finding out in that super intense moment. I have no preference so I don’t think I would have disappointment. Plus, I hate super gender focused stuff- all the blue or pink. I will have a gray/turq/orange nursery which will go either way.
Go Team Green!! (or team find out, because I may end up on that team 🙂 )
Post # 16
We planned to be Team Green but Darling Husband began to waver basically as soon as I got pregnant. We agreed to find out and we don’t regret it. It helped me feel more connected to the baby.
Really, the only downside is that we couldn’t keep the secret from friends and family so I got a TON of clothes at my showers when I would have loved more useful items.