(Closed) To find out the gender or not?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have never had a baby, but I have never heard anyone who found out the sex regret it. But they wanted to know the whole time, I think you’re on the fence for a reason, and you may regret it in the end! My Future Mother-In-Law was adament about not knowing the sex of her 3 and was super happy that she made that choice, she said it kept her going throughout the pregnancy and when they scream “It’s a ___” it just adds to all of the excitement! It is really making me consider not finding out the sex πŸ™‚ Congratulations on the pregnancy! So exciting πŸ™‚

Post # 5
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s one if the few surprises we can still have in this world if mega fast technology and social media.  Like on PP said, my mom didn’t know, by choice,  what we were until the doctor said “it’s a ___!” She preferred it that way. However, a few days back there was a good thread about being “Team Green” and gender disappointment.  That being said,  if you want one gender over the other, you should probably find out now. That way when the baby is born, insteaf of planning for months and months on a baby girl and then being saddened by a son, you can mourn not having the sex you wanted and move on to celebrating your new little one! 

Post # 6
7408 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I found out with both of my pregnancies.  I do really wish I had the stamina to wait though.  But I am too impatient.

Post # 7
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MrsSmokey:  just do me a favor. Go to the mall… And go to carter’s the childrens place and gap and tell me if you find gender neutral clothes…… Good luck! Imagine your baby shower… And your baby s room ….there is nothing wrong with knowing the sex!!!!just do it

Post # 8
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@bbfyso:  This. Or ANYWHERE.


We found out this time, and I had a little gender disappointment. I think next time, we will be team green.

Post # 9
1133 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@bbfyso:  Flipside of this argument:

Newborns only really need a handfull of onsies and a small area to sleep, but they need a LOT of other, expensive things where the gender doesn’t really matter (car seat, monitor, swing, stroller, diapers…etc).

I think that not finding out the gender makes it so people (me included) purchase mostly the necessary items pre-baby and don’t get wrapped up in the “oh my god, that’s so cute, I have to have 200 frilly newborn dresses that my baby will grow out of before she can even wear” phase.

After the baby is born, you will have PLENTY of time to get cute accessories and outfits that are gender specific.

Post # 10
2719 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@ExcitedScaredBee:  +1

We’re team green. I want the surprise and excitement at delivery with them saying “it’s a ___”. Also, I don’t need to be swamped with tons of blue or pink clothes that I have to put my kid in and find a place to store it. It’s fine with neutral items and people will buy plenty of clothing/get hand-me-downs after the baby is born.

Post # 11
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We were team green, and I will be the first to admit that it was a pain when we were shopping for baby stuff. That being said, nothing could beat that moment when the doctor and nurses had my husband announce “It’s a girl!”. Nothing. It was a completely blissful surprise and made waiting SO worth it.

Post # 12
1020 posts
Bumble bee

@NaijaPuertoDorian:  This! While I wouldn’t find out, that’s because the baby’s sex wouldn’t mean much to me, among other things. If you have a marked preference either way, find out.

Post # 13
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I found out! I had to wait 20 weeks to know the baby’s gender, and thats a long time regardless.  I just went to a “gender neutral” baby shower, and they got a lot of green stuff, which to me, is boy. She is a week past due, but for their sake I hope its a boy.  I wanted a boy and found out I am having a girl and honestly, I am so excited.  I vote to find out, I love relating to the little girl in my belly. Calling her by name, and thinking of all the wonderful things we get to do together makes me smile! I think it makes my baby feel more like a baby, and not like a question.. wondering what she will be like.  It makes it more real, just my opinion πŸ™‚

Post # 14
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We didn’t find out so I can’t answer your question.  BUT what we did was get a card where my Darling Husband, our Dirty Delete and I wrote a note with a prediction to the baby.  The tech wrote her finding inside the card and sealed it.  We will open it after the baby is born and include it in their baby book.  Just something fun for later. πŸ˜‰

Post # 15
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I always thought I would want to know. Now that I’m preg, though, I’m reconsidering. I love the idea of finding out in that super intense moment. I have no preference so I don’t think I would have disappointment. Plus, I hate super gender focused stuff- all the blue or pink. I will have a gray/turq/orange nursery which will go either way.

Go Team Green!! (or team find out, because I may end up on that team πŸ™‚ )

Post # 16
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We planned to be Team Green but Darling Husband began to waver basically as soon as I got pregnant. We agreed to find out and we don’t regret it. It helped me feel more connected to the baby.

Really, the only downside is that we couldn’t keep the secret from friends and family so I got a TON of clothes at my showers when I would have loved more useful items.

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