Post # 1
I’m in a bit of a dilemma here. As each day goes past I dislike my photographer a bit more. I booked with him in June of last year for my wedding that is in August of this year. He is one of the best for sure, and we are paying a premium for that. We got referred to him by my fiance’s sister – who used him for her wedding, and he’s shot many of her friends weddings too.
We got our engagement shots done last summer and I was less than impressed with them, but maybe it was us not knowing how to pose, or not feeling comfortable right away – or maybe it was him getting to know us… not sure. There were definitely a few good ones that we liked – but for 2 hours of photo taking, I would have expected more.
Further to the pictures just being ok – he personality really grates on me. I’ve had to block his posts from coming up on my facebook wall because I felt they were so fake and gushy that they were ruining my opinion of him. Things like “I LOVED this couple so much!!! They were SO AMAZING!”. My wedding is at the end of August on a Saturday, and I’m starting to worry that if I wait too long to decide whether or not to stay with him then I won’t be able to get a different, good photographer at all because of the high season that I’m having my wedding in. If we cancel with him there is only a $500 deposit lost, which isn’t a lot considering we are spending $5500 on the photos overall (10 hours, 2 shooters). His photos are really great, and i’m really torn.
What are your thoughts? I would love to hear from some brides who have been in a similar situation! Should I stay with him and hope he has learned from the engagement shoot? Or should I eat the money and try desperately to find a new photographer?
Post # 2
put a poll.
imo, fire him. if you dislike him, regardless as a vendor or person, you dont want him there with you for your wedding day.
Post # 3
My first question would be do you think your overall feeling to the photos were because of how you looked or because of the photos overall? I know at first I felt the same way with my engagement photos because I was being incredibly harsh on myself. After going back and looking at them I love nearly all of them.
That being said personality is a huge thing. You are going to be spending the day working with this person to capture one of life’s greatest events. I think really you have to decide if his personality is bad enough to lose $500 or if you think maybe you are letting it get to you without there being any real issue.
I would go back to why you hired him and remind yourself of what it is that you were looking for in a photograher. Based on your experience with him so far does he meet those expectations, personality aside?
Post # 4
For 5500 bucks I would NOT use a photographer that I didn’t feel comfortable with, didn’t like personally, and had already done photo’s for me that I didn’t like. I would highly recommend you look around for other options. Your wedding day is no day to just settle for a photographer. Liking someone and getting along with them/being comfortable is very important IMO.
Post # 5
Does your photographer’s personality grate on you in person or just the Facebook posts? I wouldn’t let the Facebook posts sway your decision- it’s part of his advertising and client handling. But if you’re not comfortable with him in person, that’s something to consider, since he will be around you for most or all of your wedding day.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
This is all on a personal basis, but for $5,500 I think it’s important that you love the pictures & like the photographer. That’s just how I feel & you should gage your own feelings, especially on day when your expectations will be running high & your emotions higher.
Before you fire him though make sure you can find a photographer this late in the game that is available & that you mesh well with if that’s what’s truly bothering you. You state multiple times about how great this guy’s pictures are, but yet you state not liking the ones he gave you so I don’t know what you’re upset about ..or maybe both & the Facebook posts were just strike 3?
Post # 7
If his photos actually are really great and you’re already on the hook for $500, I’d keep him. $500/$5500 might not be “a lot”, but it’s still… a lot of money. Honestly, you can ignore his gushy facebook posts if you are confident he’ll do a good job shooting your wedding.