(Closed) To first look…. Or not to first look? Opinions please!

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: What do you think about first looks?

    Mine was amazing & we still got that moment when I walked down the aisle.

    It was good. The photos were good but nothing special.

    Bad idea. It ruins the moment big time.

    It was an amazing moment, but kind of took away from the ceremony.

    I regret it a little bit... because... (comment)

  • Post # 47
    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    We are s so so so glad we did the first look. It was a wonderful, special moment for us together. I got to hug and kiss him instead of awkwardly standing across from him like you do at the altar in your ceremony. I do not regret it one bit!

    it also was great for the timing of the day. We did ALL our family  and wedding party formals before the ceremony so we enjoyed the whole wedding with everyone!

    Here’s our first look. I was shaking SO BAD. All my bridesmaids were crying a little:

    Post # 48
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    No first look for us… We’re just knocking out posed portraits and family pics between the ceremony and reception. Our photographer expects it to take 45 minutes… We’re doing “non First Look” pics before the ceremony (on either side of a door or something cute) so we’ll have pics of us, then slipping out after dinner at sunset for more romantical pitchas and a quiet few minutes to ourselves…

    Its the best situation possible I think… The guests will have a 10-15 minute drive to the venue, photobooth, lawn games, appetizers, gorgeous grounds to wander, and ~200 other people to talk to until we get there. All obligational family pics will be captured. Fiance and I will get a break from the hubbub, and my childhood dreams of the dramatically sweet moment in the aisle and first wedding day kiss on the altar will be complete! ha HA! Whoo!


    (knock on wood)

    Post # 49
    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We aren’t doing a first look because Fiance was more adamant about not having one than I was about having one.

    Post # 50
    1936 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I didn’t vote since I haven’t experienced it yet…. but….


    I’ve seen a few GORGEOUS first look photos.  But really, i find 95% of the over the shoulder, bride approaching photos to be “meh.”  And then, the reaction photos are pretty much 50/50 amazing/underwhelming.  I don’t know if me or my SO are necessarily photogenic, and we both have different types of anxieties, so although I would love to do the nerve calming aspect of a first look, I think the photos would end up not being my favorites anyway.  

    And like JLR said, for me I guess I always envisioned him seeing me for the first time as I walk towards him… And I really don’t want to ruin that. I guess I’m more old-fashioned than i like to admit.

    Post # 51
    6518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @CARA1978:  I feel better now lol–I feel like the first look has become very popular and anyone who doesn’t do a first look is crazy! LoL (At least that’s what the crazy women at The KNot have told me-so glad I am on wedding bee now)
    I think its cute, but its not for us–My Fiance loves surprises and he wants to be surprised when I walk down the aisle. He doesn’t even know what my dress looks like.

    Post # 52
    2624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @SoonToBee2013:  Lovely Photos! Your Hubby is a Hunk girl!!!

    Post # 53
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @lina010:  haha thank you!!! I feel pretty lucky 😉 Especially since his heart even beats his good looks 😉 Im in love with our pics, Im so happy I found this photograph and he was CRAZY cheap!

    Here are some more pics: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-wedding-pics-from-guests-and-a-few-pro-pics-pic-heavy#axzz2a5Vr19by

    I still cant believe what a great deal we made. I see most people pay around 2000 dollards for their photographer and dont even own the rights to their pics. Kinda mean!


    Post # 54
    1827 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    my husband and i didn’t do a first look.

    i can’t really say i regret this decision, but i can definitely now see the advantages of the 1st look.

    my down the aisle photos turned out pretty well- you can tell on my face that im completely excited and blown away.

    however, as i was walking down the aisle i don’t really remember having a “moment” with my husband- and i do regret this. i was so distracted and excited/overwhelmed by the people all around me… and i think the videographer was blocking my first look of my husband- so we didn’t really get our moment until i made it all the way down the aisle.

    and we had a gap between our ceremony and reception to take pictures, and we missed about half of cocktail hour.

    however, if we had done a first look i would have had to wake up REALLY obnoxiously early (5:30/6am) to start getting ready, as our ceremony was at 2:30pm. or to avoid this i would have had to go to a salon so everyone could get hair/makeup done at the same time, instead of having 1 hair dresser and 2 make up artists come to the house. it certainly would have been more stressful. the morning was so relaxing hanging at home!


    Post # 56
    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2006

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    @Apple_Blossom:  With over 100 weddings I’ve shot I disagree with that wholeheartedly.  Our first looks are ALWAYS more emotional than down the aisle.  There is no right or wrong to either scenario, but I’ve never had a couple express regret over doing it, or heard of any couple express regret over doing it.  It’s a more intimate experience, and has huge advantages to most timelines.

    Post # 57
    188 posts
    Blushing bee

    We talked about this many times during wedding planning. We did not do a first look because we both wanted a surprise. In hindsight I wish we had so photos would not have been so rushed between ceremony/reception. Plus I was so nervous walking down the aisle. 

    Post # 58
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    My wedding is still very far off but, I don’t plan on doing a first look. My initial plan is to do all the photos with him and his guys and me and my girls and him with his family and me with my family prior to the cermony and then do all of the photos that would have both of us together after the ceremony. My family is fairly heavy drinkers so having a longer coctail hour or a larger gap then we would have if we were doing a first look, will not be noticed, in fact the option to get more then a few drinks in prior to toasts starting will probably be apprechiated. 

    Post # 59
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Number 1 reason why I am doing this is to be able to say thank yous/hugs etc during the cocktail hour so that when it comes to dancing and having fun with my BM’s and FH I can do that without feeling guilty that I’m not making the rounds.

    Second reason is because I don’t want to make my guests wait for us!

    Third is because I know I’m going to be nervous, worried about tripping on my dress, and have anxiety about all of that and seeing him beforehand will take some of the pressure off.

    I’m not going to wear my veil during the first look – so that leaves that surprise for him!

    Post # 60
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My husband and I did a first look, and I’m glad we did. It most definitely did not ruin the walk down the aisle, either. I was much more relaxed that I would have been without seeing him first. 


    You never would have been able to tell that we’d seen each other before the wedding if you didn’t know. He and I both still cried when I walked down the aisle, so it definitely did not ruin our reactions. Everyone who says that it does obviously has never done a first look before.

    Post # 61
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I loved having a little while just the two of us but the first look pictures werent that great. BUT I cried like a baby walking down the aisle toward my husband and he choked up during the vows. 

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