Post # 1
Pro’s or con’s appreciated. Are you going to (or did you) do a “first look”? Why or why not? How are you going to do it? Where? Any regrets to those who did or didn’t one? I’m trying to talk myself in to wanting to do it for the sake of our guest (less waiting around while we take pics) but I’m having a hard time.
I’m getting an immense amount of pressure from the photog, the wedding coordinator/venue owner, and even the DJ to do a “first look”. I understand from a photographer POV it makes everything easier. The vendors are saying it makes the day go smoother without all the rushing around to squeeze in pics. I get it. You can shoot almost all of the photos before the wedding. Other than that I can’t seem to think of a “pro” to doing one though. Fiance doesn’t care what so ever either way. I really feel like I want the 1st time he sees me to be when I’m coming down the isle. I’m really worried letting him see me before the wedding would take away from that. Did anyone find this to be the case (or not)? I’m wondering if there’s another way we can do it (besides him turning around and me tapping him on the shoulder) that would make it feel more special. When he sees me for the first time I want him to see the whole picture. Would it be weird to have my dad walk me to him and hand me off for a first look? I just don’t want to lose any of the emotion that comes with that first look by doing it before the ceremony. What was your experience with doing a first look?
Post # 2
I am going to because my wedding starts at 10. We are going to do first looks at 8. I’m gonna be so sleepy…but that’s why everything will be over by 3:30!
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
mrsbrizz2017 : No first look for me! I want Fi to see me for the first time walking towards him down the aisle of the Cathedral. I want that moment that I have dreamed of for so long!
Post # 4
Can’t vote because me and my Fiance are undecided. Or more like haven’t come to an agreement. I’m team “first look” and he’s team “no first look”. We are still debating elopement or wedding and have 0 plans but if we decide on elopement, then we might be getting ready together in the morning so that would be completely different approach.. Ugh, so many options, I like aspects of all of them!
Post # 5
We are not doing a first look. I wanted to for the sake of our guests, like you said. No waiting around afterwards. But Fiance wanted to take the traditional route and didn’t want to see me until I was walking down the aisle. And I love him for his chivalrous side. 🙂 So our photographer is taking as many pictures as possible prior to the ceremony and will only have to take about 45 minutes afterwards to finish the pictures. We are allowing our guests to be served their dinner while they’re waiting though. I didn’t want them to have to wait for one minute. So it will work out well! I hope…lol
Post # 6
I love a big reveal so I will hide my final look from as many people as possible. In addition, Fiance is very traditional and wants to wait until I walk down the aisle to see me.
Also, kind of hoping the big reveal will make him cry like a little bitch.
Post # 7
We are doing a first look. Our wedding is October 22 in Chicago, ceremony is at 5, so by the time the ceremony is over, there will be very little left of daylight – so we are doing the pictures first. I really didn’t want to at first, but it has grown on me – it will give us more time with our guests.
Post # 8
We did a first look and I’m SO glad we did. For one, I loved seeing my husband before our ceremony. Everything felt perfect and happy before the ceremony getting to hang out with my husband and our wedding party. And it meant we could get all the wedding party/family pictures beforehand which meant we got to spend some time after the ceremony with just the two of us (and the photographer) and had enough time left to join in on our cocktail hour.
And just because I can, here’s some pictures from our first look (they are some of my favorite pictures from the whole day):
Post # 9
mrsbrizz2017 : My Darling Husband is one of the few people who can calm me down. If I would have gone most of the day without seeing him, I think I would have been frayed by the time I walked down the aisle.
Also, first look pictures are amazing. You get both of our reactions in one shot. DH still got emotional on my way down the aisle, but he tried to hide it instead of crying infront of 230+ guests. He looks constipated, not emotional.
Also, I got an extra hour with my guests. We had people from every coast plus one from the UK. That extra hour was great.
Post # 10
No. I want my future husband to share the emotions I share walking down the aisle. I always dreamt it to be like that and can’t imagine it any other way.
Post # 11
I did not do a first look. He saw me for the first time when I walked down the aisle…and it was a moment I’ll never forget. It was always my dream to experience that. It was so surreal…I didn’t even notice anyone but him. And our photographer was able to get some great photos as well as our videographer capturing the reactions.
I voted no. 🙂
ETA: I removed half of my uses of the word “moment”…yeesh. And also….
ETA: our wedding video—forward to 4:41 and you’ll see his reaction which was MORE than I ever hoped for. 🙂 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZnq6M-EUAI I had to work so hard not to bawl seeing him struggle.
Post # 12
We didn’t do a first look, and I have no regrets. I originally wanted to, but Darling Husband felt strongly that he didn’t, and it was something easy to compromise on. In the end, it was pretty special to walk down the aisle and see his anticipation like that, and going through the ceremony just DYING to touch each other haha.
One thing that we did do, which I personally think was very important, is that after the ceremony we took 5 minutes away from the photographers and guests and just had almost like a “second look”. Just a few minutes of private time to talk and be excited together, before being thrown back into wedding craziness.
I didn’t feel like it “took away” from our guests in terms of the cocktail hour. They were busy and occupied anyway, with apps and drinks and mingling. I think either way it’s a very touching moment.
Post # 13
I’m kinda of team first look. I haven’t really talked about it with him. I would love to see him before hand to get all nerves out.
I did go to a wedding this weekend and they took pictures for almost two hours. Which meant, we couldn’t eat. I didn’t think that was very fair. I want the day to go smooth for everyone.
Post # 14
mrsbrizz2017 : I’m of absolutely no help here because I am having the SAME DILEMMA. So I’m following for advice as well.
I’m not a super traditional bride, but there are a few traditions I like and find myself clinging to…and this happens to be one of them.
Doing a first look, then ceremony, then cocktail hour, then reception would be logistically so much easier: can do the ceremony in the reception space (and I’m not religious so I really have no clue where to have our ceremony at this point), guests don’t have to find a way to entertain themselves for hours…but I am not sure if I can part with the idea of the dramatic walk down the aisle!
Post # 15
Definitely not – I wanted the first time he saw me to be when we were actually getting married and I wanted guests to share that moment as its one of my favourite moments at a wedding – I always watch the groom!
Also – I’d want my wedding ring on for photos and to actually be husband and wife!