(Closed) To "first look" or not to "first look"? Poll

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did you (or are you going to) to a "first look"? Please commet why or why not



  • Post # 32
    69 posts
    Worker bee

    We are doing one. What really swayed me was when I was looking for a photographer, I poured over so many different photographer’s wedding albums online and the first look pics were my favorites, in so many cases. The emtion is there and it’s more intimate. I felt that you still get that emotional “holy shit, here comes my bride” moment when he sees you coming down the aisle as well. 

    Spend some time looking at photos and then decide 🙂

    Post # 33
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Undecided. and I haven’t asked Fiance. 🙂

    We are having a SMALL wedding so a first look would allow us to get a lot of pics done before hand and our 10 non-family guests wouldn’t have to have a cocktail hour by themselves.

    but I also like the tradition of being first seen as I walk toward him.

    I suppose I’m going to ask my photographer her opinions and then go from there.

    Post # 34
    2044 posts
    Buzzing bee

    No. My photographer has her preset wedding scheduling set up so that we don’t have to do this. I had not even heard of this until my sister’s wedding. I really want that special moment of me walking down the aisle and him seeing me the first time. I know it’s special to him, too. 

    Post # 35
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    100% team first look. It was amazing… we had our own moment together, just the two of us, to shake off all the nerves and say – ta da here we are! It was so special and definitely my favorite part of the day. I COULD NOT WAIT for him to uncover his eyes and see me. It was just literally magic. Plus it did help us to get some pictures done before the wedding but regardless of doing that or not, I really wanted us to see each other just the two of us before 150 pairs of eyes were on both of us at the actual ceremony.

    And – for anyone who thinks that it will take away from the “specialness” of walking down the aisle, it definitely did not. My husband was crying the whole time I walked down and I still felt like I got to have that “here comes the bride” moment. It felt seperate to me… the first look was our special time together and then walking down the aisle was like “omg this is really happening.” I highly highly highly recommend!


    First pic below is of our first look and the second pic was when I came walking in… it really was still amazing!



    Post # 36
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I used to swear I’d never do a first look because I love getting to see the groom’s face as he sees the bride walking down the aisle. Then my sister opted to do pre-wedding photos because her fiance wanted that to be a private moment (not even a photographer for first look photos). My brother-in-law still looked star-struck as she walked down the aisle, and the photographer captured some great pictures of his “I can’t believe this is really happening” face.

    My fiance is the only person who can calm me down when I get panicky, so the first look was a must for me, but it’s definitely a case of doing what’s right for the two of you!

    Post # 37
    272 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re not going to do a first look. Our ceremony and reception are in the same place and we’re not leaving to take pictures (the grounds at the venue are beautiful), so we’re going to do photos separately beforehand and then all of the pictures of us together will be done during cocktail hour. There will be appetizers for guests during that time. It was important to me not to have the guests starving and waiting around for us.

    Not doing a first look was just something we both really felt sure of, but I totally understand why people want to do it.

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    brereuther :  I’m with you. I’m skipping so many traditions with my wedding, but not seeing each other beforehand was something I just couldn’t let go of. My fiance and I both want that dramatic moment, lol.

    Post # 38
    46 posts
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We didn’t do a first look because DH wanted it to be traditional. I’m so glad we didn’t. He literally cried when he saw me walking down the aisle, it was the most romantic moment. All the guests also lost it after seeing his reaction too!

    we got all the pictures in during cocktail hour, so everything worked out great!

    Post # 39
    2165 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m a huge no first look advocate. It wasn’t for me and my husband that’s for sure, and I understand each couple is different. For us, we wanted the first moment to be when I was walking down the aisle. We spent the time getting ready all day and prepping for this day and to us that moment walking down the aisle when we both saw each other for the first time was SO important. The photos from it too with his reaction are everything I ever could of imagined. Example below. Again, I know each couple is different but this is what we wanted. 


    Post # 40
    3323 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Yes! I’m VERY pro first look. I think I’m most excited about our first look photos actually haha.

    Its my favourite part. Its just private and sweet and special. Plus, I like that it will probably calm my nerves, and get a bunch of the photos out of the way early. I’d rather not keep our guests waiting or have a huge gap in between the ceremony and reception.

    Post # 41
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    No first look for us! I’m so wanting the pictures of his face as he sees me coming up the aisle! and I want that to be the first time he sees me, sticking with the traditional way!

    Post # 42
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I did not do a first look.

    Pros: Walking down the aisle was the most emotional part of my day. I was so sad that my dad would be handing me off (we’re very close) but so happy I got to marry my best friend. I couldn’t wait for my then-fiance to see me for the first time filled with emotion walking down the aisle. I was crying but I kept looking at his face and smiling because he had the cutest smile. It was so so special and I wouldn’t have done it any other way.

    Cons: Less time for photos, but we snuck away during the reception for sunset shots. Again, I have no regrets. 

    Post # 43
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I guess it depends how important having a lot of photos is to you and what sort of venue you are at (logistically). We are definitely doing a first look because our venue is gorgeous (big estate) and very large so there are a lot of different areas we can take photos at, some of which might involve having to drive from one end of the venue to the other. The photos are really, really important to me and that’s a big reason why I booked that venue, so a first look is a must for me! We will also try to get some of the family shots done then as well. 

    Plus, while I’m sure we will take a few photos directly after the ceremony, I want to be able to quickly move to the cocktail hour and enjoy my time with our guests. 

    Post # 44
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I don’t know anyone who did a first look who regretted it, but I also don’t know anyone who felt strongly about not doing it so that may be why. We want to enjoy our cocktail hour with our guests (and the cocktail hour only band we’re paying a fortune for). We don’t want the stress and rush of trying to get photos in later. It makes the first look more private and intimate (it’s not totally private but somewhat and we can talk!) And we want daytime/sunset photos and our wedding starts after sunset. So it’s really a no brainer for us. 

    From everything I’ve heard the walk down the aisle is still super special, as is the first look. But if your dream has been to have him lay eyes on you for the first time during the ceremony, go for it. If you’re ok with the scheduling issues, dont cave to your vendors. It’s your day! Make it your dream. 

    Post # 45
    2314 posts
    Buzzing bee

    One of my biggest regrets about my wedding day is not doing a first look.  There was a tropical storm and heavy flooding in the area.  We were two hours late leaving the salon.  So we decided to skip the first look.  I say it is one of my biggest regrets because I ended up ugly crying at my ceremony.  ugggghhh!  Im stil mad we didnt get that private moment together and time to go fix makeup after.  

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