To "first look" or not to "first look"? Poll

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did you (or are you going to) to a "first look"? Please commet why or why not
    Yes : (98 votes)
    52 %
    No : (92 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 46
    3888 posts
    Honey bee

    mrsbrizz2017 :  It depends. I think for brides who want to be practical for picture/video purposes, the first look is ideal so you have the time to take some shots. But if you are after the emotions or a more dramatic encounter, then go for the aisle only. I personally would do the aisle only. 

    Post # 47
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i’ve done it both ways, and honestly, i preferred the first look. with the first look, you are either alone, just the two of you, so you get the truest reaction, or with those you love the most. and, as a bonus, you get a SECOND reaction when you come down the aisle. and, for those wondering, he teared up both times. 🙂 

    Post # 48
    586 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We are doing a first look, mainly because I kinda hate wedding gaps and I want to enjoy my own cocktail hour. And I’m sure we’ll both still feel emotional walking down the aisle with romantic music playing!

    Post # 49
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    socalgirl1689 :  I completely disagree with “if you are after the emotions” comment. We did a first look for our wedding last summer, and it was one of the most emotional parts of our day. We cried together (not in front of 100 + people), we were able to have a private moment, and I got to hear all of these beautiful words that my soon-to-be husband poured out to me the SECOND he saw me. We had so much to say to each other in that moment and I will be thankful for the rest of my life that I got to hear them immediately instead of having to keep those words in until after the ceremony. Our ceremony by the way was still perfect, with our own written vows and more happy tears…but man oh man our “first look/touch” was amazing. 

    Post # 50
    40 posts

    We are planning on a first look.  I don’t think the moment will be any less special than him seeing me walking down the aisle, if anything I feel like it will be more special/intimate.  Also I think it will just make the day flow a lot easier and I don’t want to feel rushed to take all our photos in 45 minutes after the ceremony 🙂

    Post # 51
    1509 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Wow! As of my vote, the responses are exactly equal haha. We are not doing a first look because I am traditional and want the first time I see him to be when I walk down the aisle. The logistics of the day would be better if we did a first look, but I am firm in my decision not to have one haha!

    Post # 52
    6067 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I find it funny that taking all the pictures before the ceremony was never that popular until someone came up with the cute title of “first look”. Ultimately, it just seemed like an excuse to us to get the pictures out of the way, and that wasn’t a good enough reason for us. Our guests expected that photos would be taken afterwards, so no one was put out about it.

    Additionally, while this may seem really petty, I was rather sentimental about the photographs the way some people are about rings. I didn’t want my WEDDING photos to be of an unmarried couple. It was important for us to capture the real thing – the way we actually looked just after we were married. I am sure no one else could tell the difference in photos, but I know our happiness shone through after we were married and I am not sure it would have been the same before.

    And it was important for me to keep emotions high before the ceremony. I didn’t WANT to take the edge off and not cry for the ceremony (as many people say it helps with). 

    But, as you can tell by the replies, everyone is different and YMMV. A first look is a great thing for some people. Discuss it with your Fiance and decide what is most important for you. 

    Post # 53
    9638 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We didn’t care if it was more convenient for the photographer, and I don’t even like the first look pics anyway. Most seem just …forced (no offense to anyone) . We wanted to see each other for the first time that day at the ceremony, walking down the aisle. And for our portraits to be taken in the glow of being just married.



    Post # 54
    3888 posts
    Honey bee

    SkiBee0515 :  Well, the OP asked for everyone’s opinion. You gave yours and I gave my own. Nothing can convince me that doing a first look is better than seeing each other on the aisle for the first time in front of the guests so I disagree with your comment as well. Your opinion or mine doesn’t make one better than the other.

    Post # 55
    38 posts
    • Wedding: September 2017

    We are doing a first look even though I never wanted to. Our ceremony is in the same location as the reception, Fiance is extremely adamant that he get to enjoy the cocktail hour and the biggest thing for me is that the way our outdoor ceremony is set up, he’d see me long before I got to the aisle. I think we’re gonna skip the “tap on the shoulder” thing and I’m just going to walk out to meet him to kind of mimic the down the aisle feeling 

    Post # 56
    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    We are not doing a first look, but I selected the wrong answer in the poll.  Sorry!  I wanted to do it for a lot of the reasons you mention, but my fiance really wants to see me for the first time when I walk down the aisle. For me, his experience of the day is more important to me than my guests or vendors. I think if that’s an important part of the experience for you (as it is for my fiance) you absolutely should do what you want.  I think both can feel special, but you can’t really recreate that walking down the aisle to your man for the first time moment, whereas there will be alot of special picture taking moments.  Make sure your guests have good booze and good food during the cocktail hour and they won’t miss you too much.  If you are able to do any pictures in locations they can watch, that is nice too.  I’ve loved watching couple’s photo taking sessions from afar.

    Post # 57
    222 posts
    Helper bee

    Neither – I didn’t want to have a first look captured by a photographer as that seemed very artificial to me. But my Darling Husband came over to my house in the morning where I was getting ready with my family. He was there while I was getting ready and it was perfect — very intimate. I’ll never forget his face when he saw me in my dress and he did up all the buttons on the back of my dress for me. He got ready at my house too. It was actually very romantic to travel to our ceremony together, we were driven there and held hands as we sat side by side in the back seat of the car. I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

    Post # 58
    9383 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    pearla :  That’s so sweet and intimate.

    Post # 60
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    My fiancé told me the first time he wants to see me in my dress is walking down the aisle. So we are planning on not doing a first look. I on the other hand see the practical side of getting photos all done beforehand but I will surely abide by his wishes. 

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