(Closed) To first look or not to first look.

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
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    planning on doing it.

  • Post # 32
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    The pictures are amazing. The only reason I’d think about it is to avoid having to entertain the guests in between the ceremony and reception … But Mr. M said he didn’t want to see me before, so we’ll just have to come up with something (inexpensive) for the break. 

    Post # 33
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    Beautiful pictures. I can see why you’re glad you did it πŸ™‚

    I LOVE your veil. May I ask would you mind sharing where it’s from and how much it was? 

    Post # 34
    1338 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @nearly-mrs-R: I have yet to hear of a couple who regretted doing the first look.

    Besides having those very intimate photos of his face seeing her for the first time, on your wedding day you are a big ball of nerves. Why not take away some of the pressure and have that intimate moment between just the two of you (and the photographer).

    Post # 35
    1834 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    I was just talking about this with one of my girlfriends who’s engaged! We did a first look, and I highly highly recommend it! It was SO NICE to have a little bit of alone time with my DH before our wedding started (trust me, you’ll hardly have any alone time all day!) and I love the photos that we got. It was awesome to get our photos out of the  way before the ceremony, too, so we could enjoy the reception with our guests and not be bothered to take 500 photos while everyone else was celebrating and having fun. And it did not change my walk down the aisle one bit – I cried, my husband cried, all of our parents cried – that is a totally different moment with so much build-up.

    Here’s a couple of our first look pics:




    Post # 36
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Yes. Do a first look! I was skeptical about doing one but im so glad we did. my husband still bawled his eyes out at the ceremony 

    Post # 37
    6734 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Although in the Jewish religion the groom sees the bride in a traditional ceremony and veils her during that time, Fiance (who is not Jewish) does not want to see me before the wedding. Since he hasn’t asked for much, I’m giving him this.

    We are doing things incredibly differently – we’re having a sunrise ceremony followed by an evening (sunset/post-sunset) reception much later in the day.

    There will be no first look and I will emphasize to my photographer that it’s really important to catch our facial expressions when I come down the aisle. Luckily, I’ll have 2, so they can each concentrate on one of us.

    Post # 39
    1680 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @MsquareM:  Actually, I bought the plain veil off ebay for $50, then my mom hand stitched ~$250 worth of embroidered/embellished lace to it! 

    We’d actually like to sell it if you decide you’re interested. (Definitely not trying to get my $300 back, though!) πŸ™‚ I swoon everytime I see this photo of it.

    Post # 40
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    oh wow, congratulations to your mum! Great Job!!!

    i don’t even know which dress i’m going to end up with ;), so it’s too early for me to ne seriously considering which veil. It’s just absolutely lovely and i screenshot it to Remind me Later. So in Case it’s Not Sold yet by The time i should decide i’d like one like yours i’ll definitely come back to you πŸ™‚ 


    beautiful bride!!! πŸ™‚

    Post # 41
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We did a first look and it was perfect. It also did not take away from the walk down the aisle. Initially DH was against it, but after looking at our time line and talking it out we decided to do it. It was the only time throughout the day that we had time for just us. We were able to ooh and ahh and have a special moment together without 60 people looking on. We were able to get a bunch of amazing pictures (which I have not received all of or else I’d post them!) and we were able to spend more time at our reception with our guests. We spent so much time and money on the wedding, I wanted to enjoy it!!

    So we had great time together, and when I came down the aisle, we both teared up. It did not take anything away from that moment for us. We both still had the ‘oh my god this is really happening’ feeling and he didn’t feel like he missed out on anything by having seen me already. And I got to enjoy more time around my hot husband in his tux!! πŸ˜‰

    In the end, do what feels right for you.

    Post # 42
    9120 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @nearly-mrs-R:  I loved ours πŸ™‚  It was nice to get some pictures done ahead of time, but more importantly, it was soooo calming and special to get to share a few moments together alone before all the craziness hit!

    Post # 43
    9791 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We did.

    I loved it because we were able to get all of our photos done before the ceremony and I could relax afterwards!  I didn’t have to worry about rushing through pictures or worried I wouldn’t get all the photos I wanted.  I was able to relax and eat and have a drink afterwards. 

    Plus our ceremony and reception was in one location and I wouldn’t have had more than 1 hour to do pictures, and they could only have been done at the location.  We did all our wedding party photos offsite at a park.  Wouldn’t have been possible without a first look.

    I’m really happy we go to see each other and relax beforehand.  It didn’t take anything away from walking down the aisle.

    Post # 44
    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2021 - Wyckoff, NJ

    We did a first look and I couldn’t imagine doing the traditional way.  We got to get all the pictures done first, have an emotional moment down the aisle and enjoy the 1.5 hour cocktail hour with fabulous food and greet all our guests!  It gave us time to fully enjoy our reception.




    Still Emotional Down the Aisle!


    Post # 45
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    We did it, and I LOVED it. I have yet to see a post on WB in which a bride regretted a first look.

    For me, it was a chance to get the “heavy” emotions out of the way (still got a little teary during my vows), and be able to focus/feel confident walking down the aisle. And it was the only “alone” time we really had that day… once the ceremony starts, you’re constantly surrounded by family and friends.

    The first few minutes of our first look were very private. My Mom stayed around the corner, so it was just me and DH (with our photographer keeping a respectful distance.)

    Most of my favorite photos are from our first look, and I don’t consider them any “less wedding” than the ones taken post-ceremony. We took all of the bridal party photos before the ceremony as well, so that saved a lot of time.

    My photographer was also able to get “first look” photos with my Dad, which were also really sweet. πŸ™‚

    Post # 46
    13 posts

    We are planning on doing a first look.  We are having an evening wedding on a Friday, so our ceremony won’t start until around suppertime and then the reception (just cocktails followed by a party) will be right afterwards.  So we kind of feel we have little choice but to do a first look during the day in order to get our pics done.  Plus, I hate wating around while the wedding pics are done and I wouldn’t want to do that to my guests.

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