Post # 1
I need opinions about when people give wedding gifts or when, if ever, they do not.
My fiance and I were invited to a wedding for a couple that we have only hung out with two times and it was not like double dating it was at holiday parties with tons of other people. When I got the invite I thought “Why on earth would we be invited to their wedding” We are not going but do we give a gift? I have maybe said 10 sentences to this couple. My fiance used to work with the groom. Is it appropriate to not send a gift?
Post # 3
Proper etiquette says that invited guests should send a gift, even if they don’t come. But, I’ve seen couples take advantage of this by inviting everyone under the sun to get more presents. Personally, I’d see this as a gift grab and wouldn’t send a gift.
Post # 4
Totally appropriate not sending a gift. Besides, gifts should always be optional.
Anyway, I got several invitations like that in the past. I just reply with “No. Congratulations!” on the RSVP card.
After planned my own wedding, I don’t understand how other have rooms to invite people they barely knew.
Post # 5
@jellybellybear: I am the same as you–we are bursting at the seams with our guest list and I sincerely cannot imagine how I could invite ‘gift’ guests!
I would not give a gift to this couple. In fact, I think the most I would even consider is a card. (besides the RSVP)
Post # 6
I would send a card and wish them well.
Post # 7
@orchid84: I think it depends on how well you know the couple. If it was a close friend and I couldn’t go, I’d still send a gift (I’ve done this in the past). In your case, it does seem like a stretch that you’re invited. I’d just send a card.
Post # 9
@orchid84: You absolutely do not have to send a gift. You can write a nice note of congratulations, but no gift is required.
Post # 10
My fiance used to work with the groom
im guessing this is why you were invited – if my Fiance (or husband) generally liked him i would send a card and $50 to $100. if he was scratching his head wondering why he was invited i would send a card and ask him if he wanted us to gift $50 but it would be his call because i know i would be thinking card only
Post # 11
Thanks for all of the responses. I will probably not sent a gift and I am certain we were invited just for the gift.