(Closed) To go big or go small? That is the question.

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

We had a medium sized wedding: 85 people total including the bridal party.  We wanted to make sure that either my husband or I personally knew every person who came.  That means Uncle Bob removed X many generations who my husband literally would not be able to recognize in a line up wasn’t invited.

Our wedding size was perfect because it was large enough to feel like a festive party but small enough that we were able to talk to every person there.  Being surrounded by only our nearest and dearest made our day extra special.  🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Squee-diddly-dee:  I agree with that. I wanted my guest list to feel large enough to be a big party but small enough to have that intimate feel and not that big production feel. So we are having 75-80 guests max. I would say not to go over 100 guests. I would sort out your budget first before you make a decision on how many guests to invite.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

We’re going to have 120 at our wedding, which I think will be a good size. if I had to go bigger or smaller than that though, I’d go smaller.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re going to go big-ish. Even though we’d both prefer to cap it at 80-100 people, my family will put us closer to 150.

And that is being hard enough to narrow it down. My family, including only grandparents, aunts/uncles, and cousins goes over 60 and if I add second cousins (who were the ones I grew up with, I’m the youngest of the ‘first’ cousins) my family is over 120! Etiquette is making everything so difficult, I wish it was easier and that etiquette didn’t usually direct towards inviting “circles.” 

Edit: For us, the budget has to work itself around the guest list rather than vice versa. Making sure that so much of my family can come has meant downgrading everything else. But my parents are providing most of the funds, and its really important to them to have everyone there, too.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@thepainter:  I’m sorry but I stopped trying to follow etiquette after the first couple of months reading about it. Etiquette is not paying me for this wedding. I’m only inviting 2 ppl on my dad’s side of the fam because I don’t get along with any of them. I want only my nearest and dearest there by my side who actually care about me. Not saying that any of your family doesn’t but my dad’s side will disrespect you and talk about you RITE in front of you. I don’t need those kind of ppl there ruining my day. So to hell with etiquette on that one.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

By the standards of our culture we had a small wedding, 170 people. If it were up to me and Darling Husband we would have had less than 100 and a destination wedding.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Vancouer normal I’d say is 100-150.

“Big” is 200+

“Small” is less than 75

we had a normal wedding. While the guestlist was over 200 people we had quite a few declines and 120 came. I would have liked to NOT invite the extra 60 people his parents made us invite but hey- they didn’t come AND some gave us money. So I shouldn’t complain that much!

I don’t for 1 second think I would have rather done a “small” wedding.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

We went big(ish) and ended up with 130 or so guests. Instead of inviting more people we decided to cap it and focus on spending more on the details versus accommodating a larger number of guests.

Our final tab was pretty high so I would consider our wedding large in that sense and yes it was worth every penny, moment of stress and exhaustion etc.

Post # 11
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I originally wanted 50. So far that’s grown to 70, and maybe even 80. But NO MORE!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow… I feel like mine is huge! We’re inviting somewhere between 300-350, but it’s July 6th, so being that it’s a holiday weekend I’m expecting more than average declines.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I want a medium sized wedding. I don’t need anything over the top, but I know because of my OCD tendencies, it is going to wind up being perfect. Now if I could talk to him about incorporating pink in the wedding when the time comes, we’ll be set… Lol.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think 75-100 is perfect. We initially started out with 50 but have extended ours to 75.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a small wedding, 27 guests.  It was great to be able to talk with everyone and have our closest friends & family in one place.  I could not imagine planning & organizing an event with 100+ guests.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had 65 people but had 70 RSVP. I really think it came out to be a perfect number. The night flew by so fast that I barely had time to talk to everyone. I can’t imagine if it were bigger!

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