(Closed) To Go or Not to Go?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did you attend your cocktail hour?
    No, I spent the time alone with my husband : (1 votes)
    5 %
    No, we were taking pictures : (7 votes)
    32 %
    Yes, the entire time : (6 votes)
    27 %
    Yes, but only for the last 15ish minutes : (6 votes)
    27 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Correct me if I’m wrong (I probably am, I dont know much about weddings, the Bee has taught me a lot, lol) but the main purpose of a cocktail hour is so that the bride and groom can take pictures and it gives the guests something to do during that time.  If you are doing all of your pics beforehand is there a point to even having a cocktail hour?  Why not go straight to the reception and have them announce you?

    Post # 4
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We’re doing a first look as well, so we’ll have most photos done before then. I think we’ll still shoot a few more after the ceremony and have a little stroll alone just to take it in. We’re shy people, so I think we’ll need that down time before the hustle and bustle of the ceremony. We’ll try to catch some of our cocktail hour at the end though. I want to eat this yummy food I am ordering! lol

    That’s the route I’d take as a compromise between you two – have some alone time, take some pictures, and then catch the end of cocktail hour and say hello to friends.

    Post # 5
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  +1 I really don’t see the point of having a cocktail hour if the Bridal Party is not taking pics

    You can still take about 15 minutes for some private time with you and your new husband but I wouldn’t do anything to accomodate guests for this time.



    Post # 6
    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Fiance and I are doing all our photos before the ceremony and going straight to the cocktail hour with the rest of the guests. We’ve got about 150 and a solid 95%+ of them have to travel to our event. We want to squeeze in every moment of time with them as we can. Why are we having a cocktail hour, then? Because that’s how our venue/package works. One hour cocktail, then the official reception. Plus, that’s when the delicious passed hors d’oeuvres happen, and I don’t want to miss that!

    If you want your private time, then speak up. This day is about both of you, so some compromises will have to happen.

    Post # 7
    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m doing first look photos specifically so that we can attend the cocktail hour!!!I’m going to have my husband for the rest of my life – but many of our guests came from far away and I don’t get to see very often. So I’m trying to maximize our time with our guests. I want to get to drink our signature drinks and eat our hors d-eouvres. But that’s me. I think you can do whatever you and your fiance want. Don’t let parents pressure you one way or the other. It sounds like he really wants to go, so I would split the time. If it’s truly an hour then maybe you can spend the first half hour alone together in newlywed bliss and the second half hour you can go join the cocktail party. 

    Post # 10
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Seeing/chatting with all the people who came to the wedding is usually the biggest challenge for brides so I can’t imaging taking a whole hour of alone time.  Maybe half/half?

    Post # 11
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We took pictures then, but honestly, I wish we had gone to cocktail hour. I really felt like we didnt get to see our guests enough.

    Post # 13
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @ajillity81:  My wedding is still pretty far off yet, so I’m not sure what we’re going to do. However, my cousin did some quick family photos and spent the rest of the cocktail hour with the guests. It worked great! We loved getting a chance to socialize with him. 

    However, the ceremony and reception were at different locations (ceremony and cocktail hour/tea at the church, reception at a ballroom)…so that naturally gave them a chance to do the big “welcome Mr. and Mrs. XYZ” moment even after they spent time with guests at the cocktail hour. 

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