(Closed) to go or not to go (NWR, but heartbreaking)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh, that’s so sad. My heart goes out to them. I would go. I think her husband sending you the info was their way of inviting you and asking you to be there. Go support your friend, even if it’s from a distance. It’ll mean so much.

Post # 4
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it’s nearby, I’d go.

If not, bring a casserole by and a heartfelt card.

If you don’t want to go see her or anything (some people are very awkward about other grieving people), send some houseplants and a nice card.

But i would go to the service

Post # 5
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I suggest you go.  The gesture means so much to someone going through something this difficult.  She’ll really appreciate it.  It never hurts to support a friend.

Post # 6
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2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Absolutely go. If they reached out to you then it was their way of inviting you, and probably menas they would really enjoy your support. It would mean a lot that you be there

Post # 7
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I would go as well. A grieving person can never have too many hugs!

Post # 8
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry.  Since she invited you, I’m sure that she would like you to be there.  I would go to the service.  She probably needs everyone’s support.

Post # 9
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would totally go. When my boyfriend passed away 2 years ago one of my close friend didn’t come and I remember it vividly. Even if you’re not that close I would still go, it means so much to have people you love when you are grieving.

Post # 10
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2634 posts
Sugar bee

I’d go, even though it’s probably one of the hardest things you are going to do.  Be there to support your friends.  They’ll be so grateful.

Post # 11
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I would absolutely go. Sometimes, it’s just helpful to know that people are there for you. And after you go, definitely go see her in the weeks to come. It’s going to be a long grieving process for her, and a shoulder to cry on would be the best thing you could do.

Post # 12
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I would go. You don’t have to say much, but knowing that you are there would probably mean a lot to her and she’ll remember it later.

Post # 13
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916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

One word: Go.  

By emailing you he is telling you they want you there.  When I lost my father one of the most comforting things was seeing people who I may not have seen in a year but who cared enough to come all that way to support us.

Post # 14
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2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would say if you are able to then go. It shows support and in a time like this Im sure they could use all of it that they can get. Its comforting for people to know that they have friends that care about them and that they can count on and going will show them that you are there for them.

Post # 15
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree wholeheartedly with adias.angel. When my mom died, it was really moving to see how many people attended her service. I didn’t know all of the people there, but it still meant a lot to me that they all came.

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