(Closed) To Go or Not to Go? That is the Question

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
256 posts
Helper bee

If going to this place could potentially result in you or your husband’s death or kidnapping….then no I would say you should not go.

It’s unfortunate since I’m sure you’d like to meet his family, but hopefully there will be another trip in the future to a more neutral location.

I wouldn’t go. Meeting a family isn’t worth potentially getting murdered and being freaked out by cats the whole time. I have a legitimate bee phobia so I totally understand. Would I go to a country swarming with bees? Hell no.

Post # 3
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

There may be an answer to this that you just haven’t mentioned, but why can’t the trip be to a safer country for you and your husband?  If there are still risks of kidnapping and violence because of your activism, I wouldn’t consider this other country “safer” and wouldn’t take the risk.

Post # 4
717 posts
Busy bee

I would suggest speaking to your husband about how he feels about the country of choice and whether or not you join.  I would also have ideas for alternate countries where you would be comfortable.

Post # 8
1980 posts
Buzzing bee

“His family is planning a trip at the end of June to a different country so that they can meet me and my husband can see his family as well.”

So part of the point of this trip is to meet you? If so, then I think you should see if there is any other way that the destination can be changed.

Otherwise, unfortunately while it would be great to meet your husband’s family, it just doesn’t seem safe to. Skype, let your husband go if he wishes, and try for something better next time 🙂

Post # 9
2010 posts
Buzzing bee


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