Post # 1
HELP!!! Ok so I’m a 34Dirty Delete and a VERY full Dirty Delete at that. So my top half is about a street size 12 and my bottom half is about an 8. I love a lot of mermaid and trumpet dresses and all that and I want to look sexy (I’m a BIG Christina Hendricks fan) but I have no clue what to bring to try on dresses. The only strapless bra I actually own is a black one? If there’s boning and stuff I’m actually totally fine without anything but I’m finding so far not a lot of the stuff I’m trying have the boning and the dresses I like that aren’t strapless all have lace. I’m pretty sure I’m going the milly bridal or lily wedding route so I have heard the whole no lace from china thing . . . I just don’t know what to do. Are there any tried and true bra’s for lager sizes that are a dream and not a fortune, I don’t want to spend the same amount of money on my bra as I do on my dress especially since I’m only wearing the bra once. I’m getting really discouraged by this whole process. I’d like to be able to wear something amazing and gorgeous, my cousin gave me some great advice this is probably the only time in your life you’ll be able to wear a dress like that so do it and I’d like to be able to but with my budget and the girls I’m afraid it won’t happen. Do I keep hunting and trying until I find something I like (I don’t have a lot of time here) within the world of the strapless dresses. Do I have to go out and buy a bra to try on dresses with first? Will they have stuff there? I’m sooo confused?
Post # 3
I’m a 36Dirty Delete (or EE depending on the store I’m at) and a very busty lady in general (i only wear an 8 in pants, too!). You’re like my body twin, lol
I totally rocked a strapless dress. I wore a maggie sottero b/c they have corsets and let me tell you, they are MORE supportive than a bra. Amazing. My girls stayed up, perky, and in their places all night long.
Lemme find a pic of me in my dress…
See? boobies in check =]
Post # 4
@ ejs…I never get tired of seeing that pic..awwww 🙂
Post # 5
I didn’t bring bras to try on dresses by the way. most dresses wouldn’t fit me anyways and a bra just added bulk to my chest. The attendants didn’t seem weirded out by the fact i had no bra at all. They only carried C or D bras anyways.
Plus lots of dresses you can have cups added in.
I just chose to go braless. All mine are crazy padded and hefty feeling anyways =(
I took hotchild’s recommendation and started wearing LeMysterie bras though and whiel they are pricey, they are very supportive. And nordstrom told me to go ahead and wear them for a few weeks/month and if they were stil uncomfortable, to bring them back and exchange them if i discovered that even breaking them in didn’t help.
@msmonicka, LOL it’s only one of three on my laptop of me in my actual dress. the rest are on a heavy duty external harddrive! but i always feel so weird posting the SAME picture over and over, haha
Post # 6
I’m about your same size (actually a little bigger up top), and I’m totally doing a strapless mermaid dress. Strapless can be really flattering on a larger chest, especially because so many v neck or halter dresses will show far too much cleavage on a bigger chest. The key is to find a dress that is more structured, rather than a flowy beachy type dress. I love your dress, ejs! Mine is sort of like that, but it’s fitted to a little further down… I would be careful ordering a dress from china in terms of support, a cheaper dress here that you can actually examine in person and try on is more likely to work for you than one where the seamstress might be cutting corners to copy a more expensive design. Internal support is important but since it’s visible it would be one of the first things a knock off would cut out.
In my own experience, you shouldn’t hold too tightly to an idea you have going into dress shopping. After trying on dozens of dresses and getting incredibly frustrated because the dresses I liked in pictures didn’t work for my body, I found that letting go of any preconceived ideas and keeping a totally open mind let me find the dress that looked right ON me. It was never ever something I would have picked out just by looking at a picture or on the hanger, but when I put it on I realized it flattered my body, and that was what was most important. It wasn’t a beautiful dress that I was wearing, it was a dress that made ME look beautiful. But now I’m getting way off topic, lol.
I love Panache for bras, that’s where my strapless is from. You can get them in all kinds of sizes from figleaves.com. They might have a bra for you to use at the shop, but I would suggest taking your own. More than likely the ones they have won’t be very good, and if the sample won’t zip all the way then you’ll want to make sure you’re at least wearing a good bra.
Post # 7
I’m in between sizes, if that makes any sense. I wear a 32DDD but am actually 2 different cup sizes so I have to go for the larger of the two. For that reason, a strapless bra would not work for me at all unless it was entirely custom made. It would likely have to have alot of boning for support and if that is anything like underwire which spends more time poking places it shouldn’t than actually being supportive, then that wouldn’t work either. A strapless neckline looks great with my neck and shoulders but being disproportionate otherwise scares me away from that idea.
I definitely agree though that you have to try on dresses to see what looks best on you and you can’t go strictly by pictures alone since most are airbrushed models that are not proportionate to real life women at all, and no two people are built the same way to begin with. The same goes for bras since you have to try those on as well to see what works best for you.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Certain stores may provide a bra for you. Others might not, but a good structured dress may mean that you don’t need a bra. I’m a Dirty Delete as well, and never thought that I’d look good in strapless, but when I tried one on that actually FIT, it was amazing.
Post # 9
@ejs4y8 yep very similar bodies, I wish I could aford something like that but we just can’t we’ve been putting this off forever and we just don’t want to anymore so we’re going cheap and simple BUT I’d like to look pretty and “bridey” but I really can’t spend a lot. I’m looking at pre-owned stuff and thanks to the hive I just discovered Aria dresses which I’m hoping for good things from so we’ll see. I am SOOO all about corsets and how they hold you in and I hate how most dresses with built in bras have extra padding . . . seriously I’ve got enough going on already peeps I don’t need any extra! Thanks for the advice keep it coming!
Post # 10
I’m a 32 Dirty Delete and a street size0-2 everywhere else. I just found the site Figleaf and I’m in LOVE with it. I’ve ordered all my bra’s and bathsuits from them. Honestly if the dress is contructed right you don’t need a bra. I’m going with a loose beachy one since it’s on the beach and the top fits just fine. If your worried about it falling down you can always use double sides tape like I plan on so no mishapes.