(Closed) To go to wedding or not to go?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@pebbletots:  Personally I wouldn’t go. Not necessarily because she asked you to be a bridesmaid and then recanted, but beause she’s obviously been a crappy friend and I don’t go out of my way to attend weddings for people who haven’t put in an effort.

Post # 4
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wouldnt go, she’s probably just inviting you in the hopes of getting a present. I agree with the previous poster, if she had atleast tried to maintain the friendship than no biggie but 1. she didnt even have the respect to tell you that she no longer needed you to be a bridesmaid  2. she acted as if you didnt excist to her. I dont see a reason to go to any of her events, seems like she doesnt consider you to be friend at all.

Post # 5
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I would send her a small gift and decline. If you don’t want to be there then don’t. There may be other people who would love to go but won’t get invited if you say yes but don’t want to be there.

Post # 6
2955 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I wouldn’t go!!!

Post # 7
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pebbletots:  I would first try to re-establish contact and find out why I was dropped as a bridesmaid. Just dropping her without doing that… I couldn’t do it. There could be an explanation for her behaviour.

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wouldn’t go. If you want to try to salvage the friendship I would email her and let her know your feelings on getting invitations to events when she never spoke with you about kicking you off the bridal party. If she mends I might go, but yeah, I’m more of a walk away person.

Post # 9
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

If I had a lot of history with her I’d ask her for an explanation and go from there. Otherwise, I’d decline and send a card.

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