Post # 1
As most of you know from my previous post I don’t have a whole lot of friends which is making this wedding planning even more stressful for me. Well I am quitting my job and my Maid/Matron of Honor works with me. We never talk unless at work or a few random texts. She really hasn’t done a lot in helping with the wedding, but does listen to my happy bursts about the things I’ve done! She lives about 40minutes to an hour away so along with the never talking we never see each other out side of work. I have only one Bridesmaid or Best Man who is the “sister in law”. But Mr.Bobby and I have recently “reconnected” with a friend, she and I are still on a shaky ground, but the relationship has come quite a long way from where it was. And I’ve asked SO if i should ask her to be part of the wedding party but he is very unsure about what to say.
So I guess my question is should I talk to Maid/Matron of Honor about staying Maid/Matron of Honor or should I keep my Bridesmaid or Best Man and ask the friend to also be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and keep it at that?
Ugh I did a horrible job explaining things. If you have questions I’ll answer!!!
Post # 3
I would leave things as is and just invite her to be a bridesmaid, if a larger party is what you are looking for. If you are content with having just a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, I’d just invite her to the wedding. Don’t feel bad, I don’t have that many close friends either. I’ll have just a Maid/Matron of Honor and maybe 2 BMs.
Post # 4
I would leave things the way they are and maybe ask the reconnected friend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man if hte relationship continues to go well, but I see the wedding is in July so there’s not a lot of time. Also, to get closer w/your current Maid/Matron of Honor why don’t you ask her out on a friend’s date? That might help you feel better about choosing her if you guys spend time outside of work.
Post # 5
I think you should just keep it as is, but it’s up to you. I always fear that anyone you add to a bridal party if other people have already been asked will feel left out or second best (I felt that way about a wedding I was added to after the rest of the bridal party was picked). I have been feeling down about not having any friends either while doing this wedding planning, like the bridal shower was small and my bachlorette party is only 5 people including myself. My bridal party is only my sisters, because I think just some girls (you and me) don’t have many other girl friends. It can make you kind of down during times like this, but it can be so hard to find good friends! Don’t stress, just have your bridal party be the girls you want to be with you throughout your day don’t just add people because you feel down on yourself bc of the size.
Post # 6
I would love to go on a friends date with current Maid/Matron of Honor but she has a suspended license and a husband who doesn’t like to get out. So he wouldn’t want to drive her and she wouldn’t want to get out with me all of that much. She drinks, does drugs, cusses and ect, pretty much the complete opposite of me even though we are really good friends….at work.