(Closed) To have a wedding or to not?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think if you both want to have a small ceremony, you should go for it!

Have you considered getting married at the Justice of the Peace?  You could always elope to Vegas to Florida if you’re feeling adventurous.  Here’s a list of good places to elope to if you want to travel.

Post # 4
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

By all means have a simple wedding with just the two of you, but I wouldn’t do it just because your father is putting his selfish needs before yours.  You are entitled to have a wonderful day and I’m sure many would enjoy sharing it with you. 

Try not to allow your father’s behavior take away your happiness during this exciting time!

Post # 5
305 posts
Helper bee

Honestly, you shouldn’t do anything that is causing you unnecessary stress.  If you’re fine with eloping, do it!  While I’m not eloping, I sure wish I were!  And if you have already bought your dress, go ahead and wear it!  Maybe find a nice garden or park in the area, and get a justice of the peace or other officiant and just having your wedding.  Some friends of mine recently did that.  They had a photographer, an officiant and had their wedding.  And honestly, I’m 5 months away from my “big wedding” and the only thing I think of every day is how much I regret not eloping.   And unfortunately my Fiance doesn’t want to call off the “big wedding” because we already put down a $2k deposit on the venue and he told all his family/friends about it 🙁

Good luck!

Post # 6
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I got married in the drive thru in Vegas almost 15 years ago.  That is exactly what I wanted (and yes there was a whole lot of family drama that turned me off from ANY celebration).  I have no regrets at all BUT I never asked HIM and just last year he informed me that for our 15th anniversary he wanted the wedding/vow renewal/party we never had.  In all this time I had never comtemplated that maybe a guy would have the dream of a big wedding.  Sooo my advise would be to make absolute sure HE feels the same way you do(wedding or no wedding party).  I have never been a big event kind of girl.  I really think its a big waste of money but its not just about me.  Good Luck!

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