Hostess- Lily_of_the_valley
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Here is the situation:
Destination wedding in Cabo – We can either have my sister (MOH) and Fiance brother (Bestman) stand up in the wedding or we can opt to not have any attendants.
A little more details. It will be a small wedding (probably around 30 people) I have had an on and off again relationship with my sister, we used to REALLY not like each other but now we get along better. She has, however, been making mean comments about the wedding (at first she said she wasn’t going). Some examples: told me I needed to start sticking my finger down my throat before going wedding dress shopping, constantly complaining to me about how she doesn’t want to go and how no one is going to show up.) She is half joking, but not really…if that makes any sense. She is just generally not a positive person, to say the least. She has however showed an interest in wanting to be in the wedding party, in fact she said “You better have me in it, cause I’m a lot of fun and probably going to be the only one there”. Another thing, I was in her wedding (7 years ago) but was not the Maid/Matron of Honor.
Now onto his brother. VERY unreliable and selfish. Really has no interest in being in the wedding (I don’t think). However, I think it would be a nice gesture to include his only brother in some way — but who knows. My FI does not care either way but I believe he is leaning towards not having him stand up because he thinks it’s a burden and no one ever likes having to be in a wedding (maybe it’s a guy thing??)
If we didn’t have a wedding party it might be easier and hurt less feelings if we just told people we are having a small destination wedding and decided not to have attendants because we just want everyone to come, sit, and enjoy themselves. (Plus there are added costs to standing up in a wedding). However, I am thinking my sister will be hurt (and have something negative to say) if I don’t include her. Also, I like wedding party photos, haha!
What do you think we should do?
