Post # 1
I was asked by my Maid/Matron of Honor what kind of bridal shower I would like. I was expecting her to do whatever without asking me so I didnt have an answer when she asked. She asked me if I want men there. You know the husbands of the ladies that would be invited. That kind of thing.
Theres pros and cons to that.We will be inviting 140 adults to the wedding. At the place where we will be having the shower, I dont think we would have the room. But obviously not all of them would come. But if a lot of them did come, it would be too much!!! It would be like another reception!
But I know that having guys there might make it fun. But then at the same time I think it would be fun for only the ladies!
Ahhhh, Im so confused.
Oh and is my Fiance supposed to be there too or is it really only for the ladies?? Because I guess I would feel bad if I had my Fiance come but no men for him to talk to.
Please help bees, I have no clue. What did you do or what do you plan on doing concerning this??
If it’s just ladies, would you make your fiance come??
Post # 3
The way I have usually seen it done is the men folk show up near the end (including the fiance) to much applause… the boys are basically there to help lift, carry and haul away the loot. I wouldn’t have them actually *there* during the bulk of the party. Girl time only!!! 😉
Post # 4
It really depends I think. I had no men at mine. I would just think it would be extremely boring to them….
Post # 5
I only had women at mine. My husband showed up at the end, gave me flowers and helped with the transporting of gifts. I’m kind of old fashioned in that way. I would prefer only women Because men don’t really ‘get’ showers like women do. But if you want men at your shower, do it! It’s becoming more and more popular
Post # 6
im doing just ladies! and having my Fiance come at the last half hour or so to help load up the car of the gifts and bring it all home with me + to meet any of the ladies that he hasnt yet.. like my 2nd cousins. (im driving to the shower with my Maid/Matron of Honor and its being held at my aunts house not far from mine & FI’s house)
Post # 7
Thanks for the help ladies. I just told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I want it to be just ladies.
Post # 8
I went to a shower with men and women. It was so much fun. It was an afternoon shower with lots of snacks. They had a table set up with a ton of crayola markers and had us write advice for them in a book and put a poloroid picture of us on the page with our advice. They also had an adult pinata which was lots of fun. They did the gift opening and then we played catch phrase. There were about 25 people there.
It was absolutely the most fun shower I have ever been to, but it is also the only shower I have ever been to so I don’t know about only ladies.
Post # 9
My fiance came to ours because we’re having our wedding in Hawaii (where we live) and a lot of my family on the mainland can’t make it. So we went to my hometown for a shower. Under different circumstances, I would not have had him come.
Post # 10
I went to a “couple’s” shower once and it was kind of awkward. Let’s all be honest, most of the presents that you get from a shower are not really things that men get really excited about. Don’t get me wrong, my fiance appreciates the gifts and he will use them just like I will, but he’s just not interested in oohing and ahhing over them at a shower. I think they should be a fun occasion for ladies…just my two cents!